Hi,<\/p>\n
How’s it going? I hope you are doing well. Well,
you might know by now that I am moving from
one place to another. It’s been a total nightmare.
Everything has taken longer and gone wrong.<\/p>\n
-AC broken
-Cable broken
-Lost furniture
-Damaged furniture
-No water
-No power
-Internet not working.
Etc.<\/p>\n
I am really annoyed. BUT there is an important
lesson for bipolar disorder in here.<\/p>\n
I have been explaining to someone all my problems. And
this person said to me, “What did you expect?”
I thought about it and said, “I guess it would
take a week and be done.” She laughed and
asked how many times have you moved and when
was the last time you did? I said the last time was
a while ago. <\/p>\n
She said, “Well you have no clue. Moving is
never easy.” She said, “you have to expect
delays and problems or you will get mad.”
She then went on to explain how no matter
how hard she planned, she had problems
moving the 5 times she did.<\/p>\n
I then go to thinking about bipolar
disorder and the problem of expectations.<\/p>\n
Many people expect:<\/p>\n
-Bipolar Disorder Medication to work fast
-Doctors to know the right medication immediately
-There to be no side effects with medication
-The mental health system to want to help
you or your loved one.
-People to be courteous and nice
-Doctors and therapists to have answers to all your
questions.
-M.oney to never stand in the way of treatment
-You or your loved one given lots of time to talk
about everything
-Medications to be reasonably priced<\/p>\n
None of the above is reality. Actually it’s the
opposite. So when you are dealing with
bipolar disorder, expect delays, problems, difficulty,
unknowns, things you have to figure out. The one
thing you try to do is gain knowledge from others
or from material like mine:<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com<\/p>\n
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net<\/p>\n
To help to reduce the delays and problems. BUT, even
with my material, there will be problems and delays
just not as many.<\/p>\n
When you are dealing with bipolar disorder, the illness
is complex and random and you can’t plan for everything–
you would love to but you can’t.<\/p>\n
Incorrect expectations creates major
problems with bipolar supporters and those with bipolar
disorder. I especially see many people with bipolar
disorder get close to stable and then quit their medication,
stop going to therapy, or stop going to see the
doctor. Why? Because they aren’t seen the exact results
they want fast enough. So, they almost get to the
finish line and then fall short and lose the game so
to speak.<\/p>\n
People get really frustrated because they don’t
realize what to expect.
If everyone in the system just said it
will take time, we aren’t perfect, hang in there and
people could see more case studies of those who were
successful both supporters and survivors, and the
time it took to achieve success, more people
would be successful and not give up because of the
expectation problem.<\/p>\n
This is one of the reasons that I have an audio
module called my mother’s story where I detail exactly
how long it took her to become stable. I explain everything
in great detail. <\/p>\n
It’s the same with moving I guess. I had the wrong expectations.
I expected everything to get done fast. Now I have a different
attitude. I expect to take time and if it’s quicker I am
happy.<\/p>\n
When I was first helping my mom, I wanted results FAST,
FAST, FAST. They didn’t come. Then eventually I realized
that it would take time. Actually I figured more than a
year to clean up everything but her de.bt. Changing
my expectations made things much easier on me. <\/p>\n
I have shared this method with others and it’s really
helped. I hope it does for you as well.<\/p>\n
Your Friend,<\/p>\n
Dave<\/p>\n
P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/supporterblog\/<\/p>\n
P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http:\/\/bipolarcentral.libsyn.com<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Hi,<\/p>\n
How’s it going? I hope you are doing well. Well,
you might know by now that I am moving from
one place to another. It’s been a total nightmare.
Everything has taken longer and gone wrong.<\/p>\n
-AC broken
-Cable broken
-Lost furniture
-Damaged furniture
-No water
-No power
-Internet not working.
Etc.<\/p>\n
I am really annoyed. BUT there is an important
lesson for bipolar disorder in here.<\/p>\n