Hi,<\/p>\n
How’s it going? I have to make this short
today because I have a bunch of things
that I have to do and I am involved with
this charity later tonight so I have
to finish my work day earlier.<\/p>\n
IMPORTANT NOTICE<\/p>\n
I just discovered there was a problem
with my email list. You may not
have seen Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday’s
daily email. If that’s you,
visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/supporterblog\/
Look for the dates you may not have seen
under “previous posts.”<\/p>\n
Yesterday I wrote a daily email about
“the turn around.” You can view it
here:<\/p>\n
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/supporterblog\/2007\/07\/bipolar-disorder-warning-dont-let-them.html<\/p>\n
Evan & Demi wrote me a comment that said and I
quote:<\/p>\n
“And what, Dave, do we supporters do when the
“turn around” is inflicted upon us by the bipolar
loved one? This I know is a NO win situation on
my part, but I can’t very well carry a note pad
around and ask for his name, but am frustrated
beyond my own sanity anymore to get through the
day. I’m going through my own therapy to try and
recover from all the mental and verbal abuse I
suffer from, but it is all so overwhelming.
I’m beginning to think I want off this trainwreck.” <\/p>\n
This is an important lesson to learn. When a person
with bipolar disorder is not being him\/herself,
deviating from his\/her norm by yellling, screaming,
manipulating, lying, being difficult, moody, etc.
this means there is something wrong with their
treatment. <\/p>\n
Treatment can include many things such as medication,
therapy, exercise, diet, stress reduction, etc.
But there is something wrong. The worst thing
that a person can do is try to deal with a person
with bipolar disorder on an on going basis that isn’t
on let’s say the right bipolar medication or at the
right dosage level. <\/p>\n
NOTE-I am NOT a doctor, therapist, insurance
personal, lawyer, financial person, etc. The only
thing that I have is years of experience now supporting
my mom and also I obviously deal with a whole lot of
people who are dealing with a mental illness. I have
8 or 10 people who work for me now with a mental
illness so I expereince but I don’t want you to
think that I am a doctor because I am NOT.<\/p>\n
With that said, the person posting wrote:
“I’m going through my own therapy to try and
recover from all the mental and verbal abuse I
suffer from, but it is all so overwhelming.”<\/p>\n
I am not here to tell people what to do but
if it were me, I would not focus on going to
therapy for myself if my loved one was not
stable. That’s not going to solve the problem.
The goal and the focus must be on getting
the person into treatment. In my opinion,
if it were me, I would spend most of the
units of energy that I had towards this goal.<\/p>\n
I would not try to fix myself. Think about this
for a second. If you have someone who is not
stable because his\/her treatment plan is off,
what good will it do for YOU to work on yourself?<\/p>\n
Maybe you can develop really, really, really
thick skin to be able to take all the emotional
and verbal abuse but the core or root problem
will still be there–your loved one is unstable.<\/p>\n
I am personally kind of shocked that many therapists
don’t explain this to the people who are coming
to see them that are supporter of individuals with
bipolar disorder. <\/p>\n
So the bottom line is, if you are in this situation
focus on getting your loved one into treatment and
helping the doctor get your loved one on the
correct medication and doing everything that the
doctor\/therapist recommend for your loved one
to gain stability.<\/p>\n
In my bipolar suppporter course\/system for supporting
an adult, I go through I think now 21 ways
to get your loved one into treatment. It’s not easy
but it’s possible. I have lots of case studies and
interviews you can learn from.<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING AN ADULT?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com<\/p>\n
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net<\/p>\n
Well I have to take off now. I hope you
got something out of today’s email. It’s such
an important concept in my opinion. <\/p>\n
Oh and I am really sorry for those 45,000 people
who didn’t get my emails this week. The problem is
now fixed. <\/p>\n
Have a great day.<\/p>\n
Your Friend,<\/p>\n
Dave<\/p>\n
P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/supporterblog\/<\/p>\n
P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http:\/\/bipolarcentral.libsyn.com<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Hi,<\/p>\n
How’s it going? I have to make this short
today because I have a bunch of things
that I have to do and I am involved with
this charity later tonight so I have
to finish my work day earlier.<\/p>\n
IMPORTANT NOTICE<\/p>\n
I just discovered there was a problem
with my email list. You may not
have seen Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday’s
daily email.<\/p>\n