Hi,<\/p>\n
How are you? Yesterday I was speaking to a
very nice woman who ordered my bipolar
supporter master course. She had some questions
and she used the f.ree consultation form
for non medical and non legal questions.<\/p>\n
Here’s her story in a nutshell. She had a son
who has either bipolar disorder, schizoaffective
disorder or another disorder which I forgot right
now.<\/p>\n
I think she said for 11 or so years they have
been trying to help him. She and her husband
stumbled upon my site and decided to get
my material.<\/p>\n
Right now her son is in the hospital and in a
few days is going to be getting released. She
was asking me if I knew any facilities that
he could go to–like a private care facility.<\/p>\n
She mentioned that she felt like she had
found a good doctor that could help her
son but some were advising her that her son
needs to be in a facility that they can make
sure he takes his medication and does everything
correctly. In essence, they handle everything–
total outsourced bipolar care.<\/p>\n
She asked for my opinion about the entire
situation and what I would do. Before I tell
you what I said, I spoke to another person
with the same type of situation. It’s kind of
amazing that I get the same types of calls
on the same days. That’s odd to me but it kind
of works that way.<\/p>\n
This guy had a son who has bipolar disorder
and maybe schizophrenia. His son was totally
out of control and was put into the hospital.
Everyone in the family says the son is beyond
the father’s control and should be put into
an institution so they can take care of him.
He wanted to know my opinion.<\/p>\n
For both people I of course told them how
I am NOT a doctor, therapist, lawyer, etc.
and I can’t offer medical advice. They said,
basically “yea, yea, we know that you write
that 10 times a week.” I kind of laughed
because I always like to remind people.<\/p>\n
Here’s the thing I said to them. First I don’t
have a list of “good” facilities to put people
into. I don’t think such a list exists and things
change so much that any list today might not be
worth much tomorrow.<\/p>\n
Secondly, I warned both people against what I called
Total Outsourced Bipolar Care (TOBC). Basically
this is when you take someone and you put them
in some place or with someone and that organization
or person will handle the care from a to z with no
supervision from you or your family. <\/p>\n
I think this is a bad idea in the mental health area.
We have seen time and time again that many places
really don’t treat people with a mental illness well.
Even the best places. I have seen even good doctors
without friends, families or someone’s involvement
not do the things they are suppose to.<\/p>\n
The other day we talked about theory versus reality.
Theoretically any organization that is designed
to take care of someone with a mental illness or
any person should do it really well and try super
hard to help the person. But the reality is,
research suggests that total outsourced bipolar
care many times leads to the mistreatment of
someone with a disorder like bipolar disorder,
borderline personality disorder or schizophrenia.<\/p>\n
So if you are considering this because maybe you
are at the end of your rope, please be careful.
Why? Because I find if you think that one person
or one organization will take your loved one problems
completely off your hands, I find that it’s not going
to happen like you think. I really don’t think there
is such a thing as perfect or even really good
total outsourced bipolar care unless you have a
TON and I mean a TON of money.<\/p>\n
If you have to put your loved one in a facility for
some amount of time make sure you check in, see
what’s going on, get them into the 5% group of
patients that I talk about in my courses\/systems
so they get great care. Make sure that you ask
questions, demonstrate you are on top of things,
etc.<\/p>\n
You can’t just put someone with an organization and
think they will “handle it” because most times
they won’t. <\/p>\n
I am sure there are thousands of people on my list
that had this done to them and it was a horror show.<\/p>\n
Actually now that I think about it, one of the interviews
in my course\/system had a horrible situation where he
was put in this “place” that was designed to help
people with a mental illness but the place simply really,
really mistreated him as he remembers. The family didn\u2019t
know it was because they never really checked in.<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com<\/p>\n
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net<\/p>\n
I am a huge believe in finding a great doctor and working
with him her to help yourself or your loved one. I am not
a big fan of total outsource bipolar care. Now you might
be wondering what’s the difference between total outsourced
bipolar care and outsourced bipolar care. Here’s how I see
it. <\/p>\n
Total outsourced bipolar care is when no one else has
any involvement in the care and a person or organization
outside of the friends and family circle has total say
and handles everything from a to z. I am sure you can
see why this is a problem. It’s just like in government.
If you give a government too much power, bad things
happen. Just look at history.<\/p>\n
Well I have to run. Have a great day and I will catch
you later.<\/p>\n
Your Friend,<\/p>\n
Dave<\/p>\n
P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/supporterblog\/<\/p>\n
P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
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Hi,<\/p>\n
How are you? Yesterday I was speaking to a
very nice woman who ordered my bipolar
supporter master course. She had some questions
and she used the f.ree consultation form
for non medical and non legal questions.<\/p>\n
Here’s her story in a nutshell. She had a son
who has either bipolar disorder, schizoaffective
disorder or another disorder which I forgot right
now.<\/p>\n
I think she said for 11 or so years they have
been trying to help him.<\/p>\n