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Hey,<\/p>\n
How\u2019s it going today? What a day I had
yesterday. I had so many people calling
and complaining about various things.<\/p>\n
I never realized how hard it would be to
have a mental health organization that has a mailing
list of over 100,000 people.<\/p>\n
Anyway, I have to get going really quick. I got
this email I wanted to share because it really
bothered me, but more important because it
might be really bothering you, since you might be
one of the many people who have written the same
thing to me.<\/p>\n
This is the email I got:<\/p>\n
“Dave, I hate my wife. I know that sounds
terrible but I am so sick and tired of her.
She is out of control. She destroyed my family.
She wrecked her finances. I hate her. But
I feel guilty hating her. I am misserable.”
-Stan
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You wouldn\u2019t believe how many people write to
me saying the same thing. I\u2019m a supporter too,
and you\u2019ve heard my story, so you know I know
how this man feels. There were so many times I
wanted to walk away from my mom and just keep
walking because she just kept yelling at me and
she was so out of control.<\/p>\n
There were more times than I can count that I
was that angry at my mom for destroying our
family.<\/p>\n
I know how this man feels that he hates his wife.
I know it sounds harsh and terrible to some people
but I also know there are a lot of you who also
feel like you hate your loved one at the same time
as you feel guilty that you are supposed to love
them too. <\/p>\n
Then you have to add guilt to the number of
other feelings you\u2019re already feeling, and that\u2019s
not good.<\/p>\n
In my courses and systems:<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com<\/p>\n
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net<\/p>\n
I talk about adding guilt and remorse on
top of your other feelings. It\u2019s not your fault
that your loved one has done the things that
they\u2019ve done, like let\u2019s say trashing your finances
or saying mean things to other family
members or friends. <\/p>\n
And it\u2019s NORMAL for you to be feeling the\u2019
way you are! So many other supporters are
feeling the very same way. Does that make
you a terrible person? No way! <\/p>\n
But it does mean that you have to learn to
manage your feelings, and this is what I
teach in my courses.<\/p>\n
There is no simple, one catch phrase answer
that I can give this man or to you on how to
manage your emotions. I can tell you that
it\u2019s normal to feel your emotions, but I can\u2019t
tell you that it would be right to ACT on
those negative emotions. That wouldn\u2019t
help your situation at all.<\/p>\n
One thing I do teach is how to turn negative
thoughts into positive ones. But YOU have
to be the one to do it. It takes effort on your
part. And you have to be willing to do it.<\/p>\n
This man is very, very angry, and it seems
like he lost his patience with his wife a long
time ago. Many of you may be feeling the
same way.<\/p>\n
The answer is to turn your anger away
from your loved one and turn it toward
your real enemy. Your real enemy is
NOT your loved one. It\u2019s not even yourself.
It\u2019s the bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
If your turn your anger toward the disorder
itself, then you can channel that anger into
doing something about it. In SPITE of the
disorder, you can decide you\u2019re going to
BEAT it!<\/p>\n
You can \u201cfix\u201d what your loved one has
broken in their episodes, like your finances.
It may take time, but you can do it. You
can do that with other things as well.<\/p>\n
But the greatest way to get back at the
disorder is to make the decision to stand by
your loved one no matter how much you
fell like you hate them. To continue to be
their supporter no matter what.<\/p>\n
One thing that might help is to remember
what they\u2019re like when they\u2019re NOT in an
episode.<\/p>\n
If you have bipolar disorder, and you have
angry feelings you can do the same thing
and channel your feelings not towards
your loved one but to the disorder itself.
It sounds kind of strange but if you listen
to the success interviews in my courses\/systems
that\u2019s what many people do.<\/p>\n
Well, I have to go. Hope this helps! Catch you
tomorrow.<\/p>\n
Your friend,<\/p>\n
Dave
–
P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/catalog.asp<\/p>\n
P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/supporterblog\/<\/p>\n
P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http:\/\/bipolarcentral.libsyn.com<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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