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Hi,<\/p>\n
How’s it going? <\/p>\n
It’s Wednesday. Hope you are doing well.<\/p>\n
It’s almost the weekend. What are you doing?
I think I am going to catch a movie. <\/p>\n
Well, let me get moving along.<\/p>\n
I want to talk about this concept that
I have today that’s a little confusing.
I am going to do my best to explain it
so it makes sense. <\/p>\n
I saw a really sad post on my blog
that made me really feel bad that’s
going to illustrate this concept.<\/p>\n
I am going to post it here so you can read it.<\/p>\n
I want you to read this very carefully.<\/p>\n
Here is the post:<\/p>\n
“I have been dating someone for 14 months
who has Bipolar 2…he is always manic and
takes seroquel to help him….He also drinks
and quite a bit.<\/p>\n
He is quite accomplised in life and owns
his own business.<\/p>\n
Therefore he is able to pay an accountant to
handle all of his bills and finances so has no
issues there. He is almost 40 & has never been
married….Now I now why….<\/p>\n
I am here to tell you first hand that Bi-Polar
disorder & Alcohol do not mix!!!!<\/p>\n
We had six months of Bliss….I thought that
he was the Man of my dreams. Then I began to
see the Dr. Jekly & Mr. Hyde part about him….
He becomes so mean & NASTY towards me when
he drinks. <\/p>\n
He says things that other people won’t ever
dare to say. He treats me awful….I never
get an apology.<\/p>\n
He has screamed at me, thrown me out, even
once been physical. It is absolutely awful.
I am always on pins & needles wondering when
his switch will come on. <\/p>\n
He always tells me that the episode is over
something that he isn’t happy with regarding
me, justifying his actions. I am logical and
know that it helps make him feel better, but
I am a wreck. <\/p>\n
I have lost all self esteem, lost weight myself
and in counseling because of this man’s issues
with Bipolar disorder & Alcohol.
The two don’t mix.<\/p>\n
This has been witnessed now by several friends
and Family members of his who are SHOCKED!!!!
They point out to me that this is VERBAL Abuse
and very wrong.<\/p>\n
I have been on and off with him for the past
4 months every time there is an episode.<\/p>\n
I am completely supportive of him and willing
to go to couseling but he feels that there
is no need.<\/p>\n
ALCOHOL is bad when a person has Bi-Polar….i
t makes them do things which they otherwise
wouldn’t & turns them MEAN!!!!”<\/p>\n
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Here’s what I have to say, first,
I feel really bad for this person.<\/p>\n
I get email after email that is like
this.<\/p>\n
I believe the problem is the person
doesn’t have what I call a bipolar
supporter deal breaker.<\/p>\n
I defined a bipolar supporter deal
breaker as something that is so bad
that someone with bipolar disorder
does that outweighs any redeeming
quality the individual may
have.<\/p>\n
I think it’s super important to
setup bipolar supporter deal breakers
or wise in some cases, you can
get really abused by someone that
is not stable and has bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
Let me tell you one of mine. It has
to do with medication. If my mom were
to stop taking her bipolar medication I would
no longer be her supporter. Not taking
medication is a deal breaker for
me.<\/p>\n
Some might think this is harsh but I
don’t. For example, let’s say
my mom’s doctor put her on the wrong
medication and she wind up doing something
like hitting me. NOTE-This hasn’t
happen but I am giving you can example.<\/p>\n
If she was taking her medication as best as
she understood and followed what the doctor
said, I would still support her.<\/p>\n
For others, violence is a deal breaker.
The first sign of violence and many
supporters will not be supporters
anymore because they have setup
violence as a bipolar supporter
deal breaker. <\/p>\n
You see, I really never blame my mom
for something that is NOT within her
control. Taking medication is within
her control. If she takes medication
that was prescribed and let’s say
not prescribed right or it was a new
medication and she did something,
I would still be her supporter.<\/p>\n
The woman above have a serious issue
with her boyfriend.<\/p>\n
It seems as if she is willing to go
on forever because she has no bipolar
supporter deal breakers.<\/p>\n
Now for those that have bipolar disorder
who maybe might think that I am really
harsh with this concept, I am not.<\/p>\n
Bipolar disorder is the kind of disorder
that a person with it who is not stable
can get so out of control and they can
create so much destruction. You have
to setup deal breakers for protection
and to keep one’s own sanity.<\/p>\n
In my courses\/systems, most of the
bipolar supporters I speak to, have
deal breakers and feel they are key.<\/p>\n
In my courses\/systems for people with bipolar,
the people who are successful encourage
their supporters to have deal breakers
as well.<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com<\/p>\n
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net<\/p>\n
As one person with bipolar disorder put
it, “I never want to put my wife through
what I put her through years ago, I told
her if I got out of control or met certain
criteria she should leave, call the police
or have me put in a hospital…I never want
to hurt her.”<\/p>\n
Some people like I said before don’t
have deal breakers. I think not having
deal breakers many times with bipolar
disorder allows the person to not get
well longer and longer. Why? Well
because they know they will always have
that bipolar supporter.<\/p>\n
If you are constantly being abused
over and over again, it’s not healthy.<\/p>\n
Another thing that I talk about in my
bipolar supporter course for adults
is when to call it quits. I have an entire
chapter on when you should stop being
someone’s supporter.<\/p>\n
It’s not an easy thing and that’s why
I devote so much time to it in my
bipolar supporter master course at:
http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/p>\n
This is such a serious issue, I felt
compelled to write about it and use
someone else’s story that was posted
on my blog to encapsulate what I hear
from many bipolar supporters.<\/p>\n
I would be interested in hearing people
respond to this entire concept I outlined
today.<\/p>\n
I have to go now. Have a great day and
catch you tomorrow.<\/p>\n
Your Friend,<\/p>\n
Dave<\/p>\n
P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/catalog.asp<\/p>\n
P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/supporterblog\/<\/p>\n
P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
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