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Hi,<\/p>\n
What’s new? <\/p>\n
It’s funny. I got a call on my
cell phone from someone that found
it on a note in a room somewhere
in Indiana. I have never been
there. I think people like giving
out my cell phone number:)<\/p>\n
The person said, “Hey is this
David Oliver?” I said “yes”,
the person said, “oh I know
you get a lot of calls, I just
wanted to see if this was really
you, have fun today.”<\/p>\n
Then the person hung up. It was
kind of funny.<\/p>\n
Well today is Wednesday and it’s
the middle of the week. Close to
the weekend.<\/p>\n
Yesterday, I got an email from
someone that said the following:<\/p>\n
“David, I am really down today.
I am not sure you will read this.
My Daughter who is 39 has
bipolar disorder and it’s a total
nightmare. She doesn’t think that
she has anything. She won’t take
medication. She doesn’t go to the
doctor. She has borrowed tons of
money. She has taken money from
us and used our c.redit cards…<\/p>\n
This has been going on for years.
I found your site and just ordered
your Bipolar Supporter Course
the other day but I must say I am
really down.<\/p>\n
I am depressed everyday. Ever since
she became bipolar, my wife and my
life has been turned up side down.
Nothing is going write for us. We
are going to go to the doctor because
we are so depressed. I need help and
I hope you can help us. We are worried
all the time. I only sleep a few hours.
I can’t wait to go through your course
when it gets here.”
-Frank<\/p>\n
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First let me say, Frank my heart
goes out to you. I know how tough it
is. I know what it feels like to feel
down because of a loved one’s bipolar
disorder is out of control.<\/p>\n
I am going to share one system that I use
when I am feeling down. It’s really simple
but it’s powerful.<\/p>\n
I call it the “what’s going well list.”
Many times when you are supporting a loved
one with bipolar disorder, things are
going really, really badly. <\/p>\n
Your loved one isn’t well, you can’t find
a doctor or therapist, there are lots of
de.bts that must be paid. <\/p>\n
You start spending tons of m.oney
to help your loved one. Friends get
mad you don’t’ talk to them anymore.
Work pressure starts to increase.
You start to have more problems with
just about everything. If there was
a bad time for things to go wrong,
it’s this time and guess what? More
more and more things start going
wrong in your life.<\/p>\n
You start to feel that you loved one’s
bipolar disorder has almost made you
into a magnet for all kinds of problems.<\/p>\n
You experience anxiety, worry,
guilt. It becomes hard to eat, sleep
and think. You start to get run
down. You either lose a ton of weight
or you gain a ton of weight from eating
lots of bad foods. You feel terrible.<\/p>\n
Does that sound like you? If so, I have
a technique for you.<\/p>\n
When you are feeling like this, one thing
you can do is make the what’s going well
list. <\/p>\n
What is this?<\/p>\n
Well this is a list of things that are going
well in your life.<\/p>\n
Actually, there is a person who filled
out my f.ree consultation in my courses below:<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com<\/p>\n
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net<\/p>\n
and was really down.<\/p>\n
I asked her if I could relay what
we talked about over the phone
but not use her name. She agreed.<\/p>\n
Okay so she was down. I told her
about the “what’s going well list”
concept.<\/p>\n
She said immediately NOTHING! <\/p>\n
She told me how bipolar disorder had
totally destroyed her life and nothing
was going well. And worst of all,
her son wasn’t totally stable yet.<\/p>\n
Before I asked her some questions, I reminded
her that I wasn’t a doctor, therapist, attorney
or any other kind of professional so she
was clear.<\/p>\n
Then we got to talking and I asked
her lots of questions. She has a lot
going well.<\/p>\n
Here are some of the things from my
notes:<\/p>\n
1. She is fairly healthy.
Many people are not healthy.<\/p>\n
2. She can think well
Many people can’t think.<\/p>\n
3. She has a car
Some people don’t have a car.<\/p>\n
4. She is able to take time off to help
her loved one with bipolar disorder.
Many don’t have the ability to do this.<\/p>\n
5. Her church is very supportive
This is another area of support
some don’t have.<\/p>\n
6. She found me and my information has
helped her
Millions of people sit at home
trying to help a loved one with bipolar
and do it all by themselves. They don’t
know people like me exist.<\/p>\n
7. She is still married and her husband
is supportive of all the efforts.
Many marriages end because of
bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
8. She knows how to find a good doctor
by following my system in my bipolar
supporter course.
Tons of people can’t find a doctor
or therapist and don’t know how to keep
them on track.<\/p>\n
9. She knows how to find a good therapist
for the same reason above.<\/p>\n
10. She knows how to handle her de.bt from
her loved one.
Many people have de.bt because of bipolar
disorder and have no idea how to handle it.<\/p>\n
11. She has people praying for her on
a daily basis
Not everyone has this going for them.<\/p>\n
12. She has a computer and knows how to
use it well and is keeping a journal
on her loved one.
I get calls from people all the time
who can’t use a computer to help a loved
one with bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
13. She has another daughter who doesn’t
have bipolar disorder that recently had
a kid and everything is going well.
More great news.<\/p>\n
14. She has a dog and cat and she
loves them very much and they are healthy.
More great news.<\/p>\n
15. She feels the doctor really knows bipolar
disorder well and did contact her through
my doctor finding system. She also said
the doctor understood the deal with bipolar
disorder and how a person who is not well
can manipulate the system.
This is great. Many people have doctors
that do not understand this at all. This is
a major accomplishment to locate such a doctor.<\/p>\n
so on and so forth.<\/p>\n
I wrote a little comment under each entry
to help you see how she should see it and
why it’s positive.<\/p>\n
She came up with maybe 40 things that are
going okay to well. Afterwards, she felt
much better and less depressed.<\/p>\n
I told her to rewrite the list and read
it before bed and when she rises each morning.<\/p>\n
I also told her to keep a copy with her
and read it when she feels down from
bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
She agreed.<\/p>\n
I also told her to add to the list as more
good things start to happen and to NOT
forget about the little things.<\/p>\n
Sometimes we overlook the little things
which really turn into bigger things down
the road with bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
Why does this happen?<\/p>\n
Sometimes when supporting someone
with bipolar disorder we get so close
and caught up with it, it starts to
cloud our vision and we start thinking
doom and gloom dark depressing thoughts.<\/p>\n
I have taken a whole lot of phone calls
from people over the years. TONS for
NON medical and non legal questions
because I am not a doctor, therapist
or lawyer. <\/p>\n
During that time, I have heard people
tell me that NOTHING is going right
and there is no hope. After they get done
with me, we together find lots of things
that are going well. <\/p>\n
It’s a matter of just remembering them
and looking for them.<\/p>\n
I really like this technique and it’s one
of the things that kept me going through
those super difficult times.<\/p>\n
If anyone has tried this technique, please
post so others can read it.<\/p>\n
Your Friend,<\/p>\n
Dave<\/p>\n
P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/catalog.asp<\/p>\n
P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/supporterblog\/<\/p>\n
P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
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