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Hi,<\/p>\n
How’s it going?<\/p>\n
Hey yesterday people sure did get worked up
about my email about bipolar and lying.<\/p>\n
Anyway, today I wanted to move on to
another topic.<\/p>\n
Oh, before I get to that. I actually
was informed that someone did a study
that childhood experiences could alter
a person’s brain cells which might
go along with what people have been telling
me with bipolar disorder–they feel that
traumatic events in their childhood caused
their bipolar. I am looking into this all
so I will keep you posted.<\/p>\n
Oh hey another thing. I am going to be
hiring a research assistant. If you are good
at research and want to w.ork from home,
keep your eyes peeled, I will be emailing
a website to go an visit to apply for
the job.<\/p>\n
Okay on to today’s topic and this
very important lesson about bipolar
disorder.<\/p>\n
First let me tell you how I discovered
the lesson.<\/p>\n
I have had several businesses, and hired
lots of people that many would not hire.
Let me tell you what I mean.<\/p>\n
I use to have a landscaping business a long
time ago. One of the first people I hired
was a kid that was thrown out of 8 to 10
schools and got into a lot of fights. <\/p>\n
He applied to the job with me and I saw
inside of him a person who could be a great
worker. <\/p>\n
I hired another person, who had many tattoos,
and was said to be very violent. He was in
constant trouble in school. He was friends
with the first person I hired. The first person
I hired told me he would be a hard worker and
a great asset. I interviewed him and everything
seemed good.<\/p>\n
The first person went on to work for me for 4 years
and was a TREMENDOUS asset. The second person worked
for me for two years and then went into the military.<\/p>\n
He did a great job as well (he did see a person
run over a dog and chase after the car and catch the
guy and make him wait for the police and threaten
him…he was a dog lover). <\/p>\n
There were no other incidents. These people
were super hard workers that ALWAYS got
the job done.<\/p>\n
People often asked me, “how did you control
them?” I always said I didn’t. I treated them
with respect and told them I was counting
on them and expected them to be great hard
workers. I gave them responsibility. They commented
to me that no one had ever treated them like I
treated them.<\/p>\n
Now fast forward many years later. About 10 years
later, and I have an organization that helps people
cope and deal with bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
When I first started, I hired my mom. After
she was stable. Then one day I had a person
contact me. She said she was on my mailing
list and wanted to work for me. She said she
could be a big help to me.<\/p>\n
She then told me that between the ages
of 16 and 45 she was diagnosed with:<\/p>\n
Depression (also Situational Depression)
Chronic Major Depression (with suicide risk)
Dysthymic Disorder
Anxiety Disorder
Panic Disorder
Adult ADHD
Schizophrenia
Multiple Personality Disorder
Antisocial Personality Disorder
Psychosis NOS
Borderline Personality Disorder
Substance Abuse
Schizoaffective Disorder
Bipolar Disorder I (with and without Psychotic Features)
Bipolar Disorder II (with Suicidal Ideologies)
Bipolar Disorder \u2013 Mixed Type
Bipolar Disorder \u2013 Rapid Cycle
Bipolar Disorder \u2013 NOS \u2013 with Auditory & Visual Hallucinations<\/p>\n
I heard that and said, “well that’s a lot…hmm”<\/p>\n
She then went on to say she was stable and that
she had a plan just in case she got sick. She
asked to work on a trial.<\/p>\n
I felt good about her. I had Pascale who works
with me interview her as well. Pascale said she
sounded good and recommended we do a
trial.<\/p>\n
This person turned out to be a superstar
and a major help to me growing and expanding.<\/p>\n
She has done a great job.<\/p>\n
The one thing that I learned, was like in
the days of my landscaping business, I treated
her with respect, gave her responsibility
and didn’t think of her like others thought
of her–sick and mentally ill. I thought of her
as a person who could do very well and was a
success.<\/p>\n
Then after her, I began hiring others
with bipolar disorder, depression, schizophrenia
and borderline personality disorder. I would
find them because the larger my list grew,
the more people I would find that had great
skills that were on my list.<\/p>\n
I found that these people did an excellent job.
I did the same thing, I EXPECTED them to
do well and I did NOT treat them as mentally
ill.<\/p>\n
All this got me to thinking about something.<\/p>\n
How many people are not doing well with bipolar
disorder because the people around them treat
them as mentally ill, don’t respect them,
treat them almost child like, expect them to
have lots of problems and think they can’t be
a success?<\/p>\n
Then I remember a study that I read. It was
called the Rosenthal study*.<\/p>\n
To make a long story short, the researchers
took students and presented them to teachers.
They told teachers that some students were
bright and others were not. <\/p>\n
Basically the students that were thought
to be bright did much better than the ones
that were said to not be bright or really
smart.<\/p>\n
Wikipedia says:
“Rosenthal and Jacobson concluded that a
self-fulfilling prophecy was at work. The
teachers had subtly and unconsciously encouraged
the performance they expected to see. Not only did
they spend more time with these students, they were
also more enthusiastic about teaching them and
unintentionally showed more warmth to them than
to the other students. <\/p>\n
The Pygmalion effect, Rosenthal effect, or more
commonly known as the “teacher-expectancy effect”
refers to situations in which students perform
better than other students simply because they
are expected to do so.”<\/p>\n
With this said, I have concluded, not through
a study, but through personal experience and
interviewing many people, that a person
with bipolar disorder’s entire support system
can actually positively or negatively affect
a person’s path towards stability and success.<\/p>\n
Some people think those that have bipolar disorder
will not be successful. People like my brother.
Other people, like myself, do not think this.
We think positive things about people with
bipolar disorder or other disorders and as a result
we kind of get what we expect.<\/p>\n
I have found that the people with bipolar disorder
that work for me are very smart, creative and
are great problem solvers. I have given the most
difficult problems to the person I described above
and she has in almost every case come up with
a very simple workable solution when all others
that didn’t have a disorder couldn’t.<\/p>\n
So I ask all those bipolar supporters out there, what
are you really expecting from your loved one?
Are you expecting success or are you expecting
them not to do well. If this is you, you can
really be hurting their chances of being successful.<\/p>\n
In my courses\/systems below:<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com<\/p>\n
HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net<\/p>\n
I have tons of interviews with successful
people with bipolar disorder. Why? It’s
because I want to show that regular average
people can be successful with the disorder.<\/p>\n
Too many times, bipolar disorder is characterized
with bad things. Meaning the news shows people
who do stupid or bad things. Even when Oprah
did a show on bipolar disorder, there was no
focus on success. It was like they had people
who didn’t do well and really weren’t overly
happy and kind of suggested bipolar disorder
is a hugely negative thing that’s going to
limit someone forever. Think about it.<\/p>\n
Imagine if you saw a show where 5 to 10 people
were super successful, problem solvers, contributing
to society, taking care of themselves and fun
to be around? This is the way it should have been.<\/p>\n
With my organization, I could EASILY show many
people who have bipolar disorder that do
really well–are are what is called high functioning.<\/p>\n
The way I would have done a show was to
show the people that work for me and you would
be amazed. If you saw all the people who work
for me and what they do, you would have to concluded
you can be successful with bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
And it’s not just the people that work for me,
I have an entire new course not release yet
where I interview super successful people with
bipolar disorder. People that are doing great
things in society. There are many out there
you just don’t know about them.<\/p>\n
The reason why I am so positive on people with
bipolar disorder is because I know tons of
successful people with the disorder. I know
success can be achieved. So if you work for me,
I expect you to be creative, smart, driven,
responsible and stable. As a result, I kind
of get what I expect.<\/p>\n
When I think back to the people who worked for me
while I had a landscaping business, I realize that
by expecting them to do well, they did well. Many
times people in school and their friends expected
them to be violent or delinquent and that’s what
they were.<\/p>\n
I must say, I am really proud to say that those
two people are very successful now. One of them
is one of the top health insurance brokers in
New York. The other is very successful as well.<\/p>\n
Does this all make sense? So it’s important
to saturate your mind with stories of people
who have done with bipolar disorder so you start
to turn a negative mindset around whether you have
the disorder or don’t.<\/p>\n
Not only stories but you most learn from those
who are successful. If you are a bipolar supporter
or have bipolar disorder and you don’t know anyone
who is successful to model, you really need to
get my course\/system. I am not going to give you a
sales pitch but you should consider making the
investment.<\/p>\n
It will be interesting to see any comments people
with bipolar disorder post on this topic. I also
would like to see if any supporters will admit
they use to think negatively and how that affected
a loved one with bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
Hopefully this all makes sense. I had to write
it kind of fast because I have a ton of things
to do today.<\/p>\n
Anyway, I have to run. Off to the library.
Catch you tomorrow.<\/p>\n
Your Friend,<\/p>\n
Dave<\/p>\n
P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/catalog.asp<\/p>\n
P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/supporterblog\/<\/p>\n
P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http:\/\/bipolarcentral.libsyn.com<\/p>\n
*Rosenthal, R., & Jacobson, L. 1968. Pygmalion in the classroom. New York: Holt, Rinehart & Winston.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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