{"id":5389,"date":"2007-11-17T10:39:00","date_gmt":"2007-11-17T15:39:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/are-you-stuck-in-this-bipolar-supporter-trap\/"},"modified":"2007-11-17T10:39:00","modified_gmt":"2007-11-17T15:39:00","slug":"are-you-stuck-in-this-bipolar-supporter-trap","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/are-you-stuck-in-this-bipolar-supporter-trap\/","title":{"rendered":"Are you stuck in this bipolar supporter trap?"},"content":{"rendered":"

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/catalog.asp<\/a><\/p>\n

Hi,<\/p>\n

How’s it going?<\/p>\n

Hope you enjoyed the bipolar news that
I sent out yesterday. If you missed it,
check my bipolar blog below.<\/p>\n

Hey in the middle of last night,
I had this incredible idea about how I can
help people who can’t afford their bipolar
medications, therapy or treatment.<\/p>\n

It’s going to require that I do a lot of work
for me but worth it. I envision the system
being released for f.ree in January.<\/p>\n

Today actually I have to go to a far
away library to do some research for this
new concept I just thought of.<\/p>\n

Okay on with today’s bipolar email.<\/p>\n

I wanted to write you today about a rather
big problem that I see going on with some
people supporting someone with bipolar
disorder.<\/p>\n

It all started yesterday when I
was talking to a friend in the gym.<\/p>\n

It’s kind of funny. This friend
in the gym was on my list and didn’t
even realize that I was his friend
and it was my mom that had bipolar
disorder.<\/p>\n

Anyway, he said to me, “Dave,
I am so annoyed. You know we lost
so much money because of her bipolar
disorder. If we didn’t lose all that
money, I would be so much further
along in life.” Then he went on
and on about his wife and all
her episodes and how problematic
they were.<\/p>\n

I said to him, “Isn’t she doing
great and stable since you start
using the system I told you about?”<\/p>\n

He said “yes but, we lost so much
money and time….” I cut him
off and I said, “you have to look
forward and stop looking back.”<\/p>\n

There is NO question that bipolar
disorder can be super destructive
and a nightmare to have and to
help someone with it.<\/p>\n

There is no question that it creates
financially stress and problems. There’s
no question that people with the disorder
usually spend years trying to get stable.<\/p>\n

There’s no question that bipolar disorder
wastes a lot of time, energy AND money.<\/p>\n

I have personally wasted a lot of time and money
on the disorder. You’ve read my stories
in the descriptions of my courses\/systems
below:<\/p>\n

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/a><\/p>\n

SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com<\/a><\/p>\n

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net<\/a><\/p>\n

But here’s the deal. You have to MOVE
FORWARD and not keep dwelling on the
past. <\/p>\n

Now there’s no question that you should
do what I call a PEA (post episode analysis)
and see what went wrong if a bipolar episode
occurred.<\/p>\n

But you can’t keep saying:<\/p>\n

if only we didn’t lose so much money
if only this episode didn’t occur
if only we caught the episode earlier
if only we didn’t waste so much time<\/p>\n

I talk to a lot of bipolar supporters
who really spend way too much time
thinking about all they lost instead
of focusing on the future.<\/p>\n

Focusing on past negative events becomes
a trap for many bipolar supporters. <\/p>\n

With my mom and her last big bipolar
episode, I looked at the past to figure
out what happen and why I thought it happen
and then I just focused totally on the future.<\/p>\n

My brother on the other hand, I remember when
he was talking to us, he would always say stuff
like, “Yea well, she’ll just go into another
episode again like she always does.” It was
almost like he was always living in the
past.<\/p>\n

In my opinion, that’s the wrong attitude.<\/p>\n

I once heard or read this somewhere:
YOUR PAST DOES NOT EQUAL YOUR FUTURE<\/p>\n

I was talking to Michele Soloway yesterday
and she was telling me how it took her many
years to get control of all the different
disorders that she had and that for a while
she was kind of negative looking at the past
and feeling that since she didn’t have them
under control, she might not ever. Then
she changed her attitude and looked into the
future and started to imagine and think of
herself as being successful, stable and
not having the same old problem she always
did. As a result, she started actually
doing well.<\/p>\n

I can’t prove this but I think when you keep
looking back at the past over and over again,
you almost create your own failure in the future.<\/p>\n

My friend swears that he is going to
stop focusing on his negative past and
focus on a positive future. He also
did acknowledge that he should be very
happy that his wife is stable and doing
well.<\/p>\n

I really would appreciate you posting
a story of how you went from looking
back in the past to looking to the
future.<\/p>\n

If you have a story please post it on
my blog.<\/p>\n

Your Friend,<\/p>\n

Dave<\/p>\n

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/catalog.asp<\/a><\/p>\n

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/supporterblog\/<\/a><\/p>\n

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http:\/\/bipolarcentral.libsyn.com<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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