{"id":5385,"date":"2007-11-21T08:33:00","date_gmt":"2007-11-21T13:33:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/bipolar-lesson-the-lie-you-might-have-to-tell\/"},"modified":"2007-11-21T08:33:00","modified_gmt":"2007-11-21T13:33:00","slug":"bipolar-lesson-the-lie-you-might-have-to-tell","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/bipolar-lesson-the-lie-you-might-have-to-tell\/","title":{"rendered":"Bipolar lesson: The lie you might have to tell"},"content":{"rendered":"

==>>Help with ALL aspects of bipolar disorder<<==
Check out all my resources, programs and information
for all aspects of bipolar disorder by visiting:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/catalog.asp<\/a><\/p>\n

Hi,<\/p>\n

How’s it going?<\/p>\n

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving and there’s one
lie that you might have to tell. <\/p>\n

Let’s talk about it.<\/p>\n

Here’s the deal. There is a type of lie
that I say is an okay lie to tell. I call
it “the bipolar white lie.”<\/p>\n

It’s a good lie in a way. Now it’s up
to debate if you should ever use this
strategy.<\/p>\n

Let me tell you about it however and
the story as to how I thought of this.<\/p>\n

Okay when my mom first got sick in her
big bipolar episode. It was right around
Thanksgiving.<\/p>\n

I was hoping and praying each night leading
up to Thanksgiving that my mom would be okay
and there wouldn’t be problems.<\/p>\n

My brother wound up putting pressure on me
to make sure everything went okay (in my
head I was thinking, “how am I going to
do this?”<\/p>\n

A few days before Thanksgiving I saw some of
my friends that I hadn’t seen in a while. Most
asked, “how are you parents doing?” I said,
“okay.” This was my first bipolar white lie.<\/p>\n

Where they really doing fine? Hmm not really
but I just didn’t know what to say. I didn’t
want to say, “Well my mom is screaming and yelling
at me, I have no idea what she has, I am really
worried, I have lost 20 pounds, I am stressed out
beyond what you can imagine, etc.”<\/p>\n

Then after Thanksgiving, even though Thanksgiving went
well and my mom didn’t really have an episode flair
so to speak but I was so worried and stressed that
I barely ate. So Thanksgiving for me was not good.<\/p>\n

After Thanksgiving, I saw people around town and in
the gym and they said, “How was your Thanksgiving?”
I said, “okay” and changed the subject.<\/p>\n

Now was that true? I guess you could probably said
it was kind of true but then you could argue it
wasn’t okay. I just didn’t want to get into it.<\/p>\n

I find that in many cases when you have bipolar
disorder OR you are a bipolar supporter you have
to use what I call the bipolar white lie.<\/p>\n

Some people have a strict code of never lying and
I wonder if they think that the lies I talk about
are really bad.<\/p>\n

It’s similar to if you meet a person who is struggling
to lose weight. They lose like 1 pound every other month
and are on track to lose all the weight needed in about
12 years. When they ask, “how do you think I look?”
You probably respond, “good.” Now is that totally true?
Probably not. <\/p>\n

I believe that white lies are okay. No sense in creating
problems by giving exact details to questions that
will produce even more questions.<\/p>\n

I think however you have to really start to get
“your story straight” and to the point for Thanksgiving
related questions.<\/p>\n

If you have bipolar disorder and had problems
you might have a few one liners about where you have
been, how you have been doing and some good conversation
changers so you can move past tough questions for yourself.<\/p>\n

If you are a bipolar supporter and your loved one
has had problems, same thing above applies.<\/p>\n

I really think this is serious and I think everyone
should sit down and map out what you think you may
be asked and quick answers.<\/p>\n

Don’t make up big lies<\/p>\n

Keep it short<\/p>\n

Try to change the subject<\/p>\n

Smile<\/p>\n

If you get forced into deep questions remember you can
always say lines like:<\/p>\n

Were doing okay.<\/p>\n

Okay.<\/p>\n

Things are improving<\/p>\n

We are making a lot of progress<\/p>\n

We are moving forward<\/p>\n

The light is at the end of the tunnel<\/p>\n

It’s been tough but things are getting better<\/p>\n

Etc.<\/p>\n

I think these are the best when dealing with
bipolar disorder. No matter what your situation,
the above lines should work well.<\/p>\n

Make sense? <\/p>\n

In my courses\/systems below, I talk about how to
handle this even more. It can be a little complicated:<\/p>\n

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/a><\/p>\n

SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com<\/a><\/p>\n

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net<\/a><\/p>\n

I hope you don’t think badly of me
for telling you this but I get so many people that
are worried about how to face relatives or friends
during these holiday periods and don’t know how
to handle these types of questions.<\/p>\n

There’s people that I have spoken to that
are SUPER STRESSED about Thanksgiving tomorrow.<\/p>\n

One women said, I have been away from the family
for so long and I know people are going to
ask where I was.<\/p>\n

She actually decided to tell the truth combined
with a positive message combined with changing
the subject.<\/p>\n

She is going to say “I was sick with my
bipolar disorder, I am doing very well now,
so how are you doing?”<\/p>\n

She has rehearsed this and now feels good
about handling what might happen.<\/p>\n

I am actually heading over to my parents house
for Thanksgiving. I can’t believe that this will
be the second Thanksgiving my brother didn’t invite
us to.<\/p>\n

Actually someone wrote me:<\/p>\n

“Dave, are you going to your brothers
for Thanksgiving or is he still not speaking
to your family. My sister did the same thing
to us. I have been reading your emails for
more than a year and I remember you talking
about how he disowned you, your mom and dad.
That’s terrible. How do you deal with it?”
-Stanley<\/p>\n

Tomorrow I will talk about this I think.<\/p>\n

Anyway, have a great day. Catch you to tomorrow.<\/p>\n

Have you ever had to tell bipolar white lies?
If so, please post a story for us on the bipolar
blog below.<\/p>\n

Your Friend,<\/p>\n

Dave<\/p>\n

P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/catalog.asp<\/a><\/p>\n

P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/supporterblog\/<\/a><\/p>\n

P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http:\/\/bipolarcentral.libsyn.com<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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