Hi,<\/p>\n
How’s it going?<\/p>\n
Hope you are doing well.<\/p>\n
Before I get started, I wanted
to ask for some help.<\/p>\n
I am looking for a person who posts some
great comments on my blog called “Graham N.”
If you are him or know him, please have an email
sent to feedbacktodave@mentalhealthworld.net<\/p>\n
Thanks.<\/p>\n
Okay, I have a really important lesson for you today
and it’s based on the total nightmare day
I had yesterday.<\/p>\n
What a day I had yesterday. <\/p>\n
Here’s what happen. So I start working
and…<\/p>\n
I had one guy call and scream and yell
at me on my cell phone. He then threatened
me if I didn’t “stop promoting medication.”
He said his wife had bipolar disorder
and he was mad because drug companies
were greedy.<\/p>\n
I had another woman call and scream and
yell at me. She said my emails “sucked”
and they were worthless and then she
demanded that I pay her for wasting her
time. <\/p>\n
I had another lady who said that I
scammed her. She said that I stole
money from her last night. She lived
somewhere on the west coast. I haven’t
left my area in a long time \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n
When I told her that I didn’t she
said that I had an attitude and she
was going to unsubscribe from my
list. I told her okay. Then she
told me that she was sure that
I was helping some people just
not her. And then she
screamed at me some more.<\/p>\n
I was getting hammered by person
after person. <\/p>\n
I started to think bad thoughts like
“why the heck do I do this?”
It is annoying some times when
you get yelled at and screamed
at for nothing. Anyway, I
stopped thinking negative
thoughts. <\/p>\n
But, in reality, I know why many
mental health places have massive turnover
and shut down. It takes a whole lot to
run something that helps people who are
dealing with disorders like bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
It’s amazing. In EVERY group that I have
volunteered at, the turn over is almost
90%. The only people who seem to stay
are those who aren’t doing well anyway.
It’s really strange but I understand.
But at the same time, it makes me sad.
The best people I know don’t go and
support the support groups, in my
area at least. But I have asked
others and they tell me the same thing.<\/p>\n
So you have to realize this when
you are going there. Actually,
if you have been on my list for a while,
you’ll remember that a few years ago,
I talked about a support group that
was INCREDIBLE. They had INCREDIBLE
speakers and INCREDIBLE events.<\/p>\n
I was talking to a friend that has
a wife with bipolar disorder. He volunteers
like me and goes to EVERYTHING. We were
talking and realized that the group we loved
had ONE event for the year. The entire year.
It seems that many people who ran it left
or are going to be leaving so things have
fallen by the wayside.<\/p>\n
The bottom line, it takes a lot to run
an organization that deals with mental
health and most people unfortunately
are not paid or paid so little it
scary.<\/p>\n
I guess I want to say something. If you go
to a support group or mental health organization,
cut them some slack. Be nice. Realize they try.
The try hard. They may be short on photocopies
or other “stuff.” But they try.<\/p>\n
Give them some money because they all
need it. At the places where I volunteer
at, some people are so darn mean. And
it’s generally almost always the supporters
who are angry.<\/p>\n
Anyway, back to my story. Then on top of
that, my blog was broken for hours yesterday.
It was driving me out of my mind. I kept trying
to publish and it was “sick” and not working.<\/p>\n
At almost 12:00pm, I was like, “what a day?”<\/p>\n
On a funny note…<\/p>\n
In the middle of all these problems, my friend
called and said, “Dude, what are you doing?”<\/p>\n
I said, “working, like most everyone in the
world.” He said, “Dude, who cares about work,
let’s go to the movies?”<\/p>\n
What a life. Let’s go to the movies
in the middle of the day.<\/p>\n
Anyway, I didn’t go \ud83d\ude42 I had too much to
do.<\/p>\n
My friend is so funny. He’s like 25.
He never has any money.
He barely works. He doesn’t get the connection
between not working, hanging out,
and not having any money \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n
Anyway, as I thought about all my problems, I
was then scanning my email and some bipolar
blog posts. I saw that many people were having
problems as well. And I know at any one
time, there are thousands of people who
are having problems with bipolar disorder
on my list because it’s so large.<\/p>\n
So today I decided to talk about it.<\/p>\n
The bottom line is, when you are dealing with
bipolar disorder, you can have a whole lot
of problems. Amazing problems. Ones you can
think of but many that you never can think
will happen.<\/p>\n
Sometimes you are overwhelmed. I have had
the worst possible situations. And for
some reason, problems from bipolar
disorder almost always happen
when you don’t want them to.<\/p>\n
Ever notice problems don’t seem to
happen when you have an army of people
to help, you have tons of money, lots
of family members around for support,
etc.<\/p>\n
When my mom was going though her
major bipolar episode, things would
always get worse when I didn’t
want them to.<\/p>\n
There were days when I would
get up in the morning and say,<\/p>\n
“wow, I am feeling great. I am ready
to take on bipolar disorder today.
Let’s fight!” (fight against bipolar
disorder). But then nothing happen.
It was odd. This is when I started
believing bipolar disorder was like
a thing that was in my mom and it
was smart enough to not attack me
when I wanted to be attacked. <\/p>\n
Whenever I write stuff like this, I know some
people will write me (100+) that I am crazy,
but I am sure you know what I am talking about.<\/p>\n
Anyway this happen time and time again.<\/p>\n
There are many people who are contacting me,
especially in my coaching programs that have
many problems. They “freak out” and get so
stressed as one said to me, “I think I am
going to have a stroke and die.” <\/p>\n
With that said, I felt that I had to
send out a reminder email on how to deal
with lots of problems from bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
Here are some things that kept me going
and keep me going when I have days like
yesterday.<\/p>\n
#1 Realize things will get better. If you
talk to someone who had lots of problems,
they will generally tell you, things looked
hopeless but after a while, it turned around.
Things always turn around. <\/p>\n
#2 Things are never as bad as they seem
at first. At first, something or some things
looks like the worst possible thing that will
create almost the world coming to an end…
it never does.<\/p>\n
#3: There is always a solution when you
have time to think. Don’t make rash decisions
even if you feel pressured. Always take
time to think. Allow yourself a day or two
to let it sit in your mind. Many times,
just one night of some kind of sleep (I
won’t even say good, because when you have
problems you don’t seem good or well), will
bring you a whole lot of solutions.<\/p>\n
Bipolar disorder loves to make you make
quick decisions so they are bad.<\/p>\n
#4: Many other people had your same problem
and dealt with it effectively.<\/p>\n
#5: There is help somewhere. In the case of
bipolar disorder, many solutions to problems
are in my courses\/systems below:<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER? SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER? HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER? #6: It could be way worse. I use this #7: Bad events generally produce positive -my mom is now almost out of d.ebt (only -she has learned how to total manage -she figured out who were good friends -I started this entire organization that’s -I found that a company that I worked with, -My mom now has better health care and a -My mom is now able to take care of herself -Because my mom a major episode, I had -I figured out who some of my real friends were. He called my mom, myself, her neighbors and At first, he talked in such a way, he scared me. He caused me She helped me with a plan and basically It’s amazing all the work she did. I am totally Well I have to take off. I hope this gave Tomorrow is the bipolar disorder news. Your Friend,<\/p>\n Dave<\/p>\n P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give Hi,<\/p>\n How’s it going?<\/p>\n Hope you are doing well.<\/p>\n Before I get started, I wanted I am looking for a person who posts some Thanks.<\/p>\n Okay, I have a really important lesson for you today
Visit:
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Visit:
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a lot. If I have a super bad day. I think
of the worst possible thing that could be
going on with me and then think, “Wow,
I am glad that I am not there or having
that happen to me.” For example, on a really
bad day, I say to myself, “I could be totally
homeless, living in a third world country,
with no food, medicine or water.” After I think
this, I generally feel better. <\/p>\n
outcomes. More times than not, something
positive always happen from tings that
seem really, really bad. For example,
my mom went into a huge bipolar episode
years ago. It was a total nightmare. BUT,
from that bipolar episode:<\/p>\n
one more payment). If she didn’t have the
episode, her d.ebt could have gone to
$50,000 or $100,000.<\/p>\n
her bipolar disorder<\/p>\n
and who were bad friends, including
family members.<\/p>\n
now helping hundreds of thousands of people
a year.<\/p>\n
that paid me were TOTAL crooks. When they
found out my mom had bipolar disorder and I
was paying her hospital bills, they
tried to “get me” and stopped all payments
trying to bankrupt me.<\/p>\n
better job<\/p>\n
financially<\/p>\n
to stop running three other businesses. Something
amazing happened. As a result, I had to find
good people to run them for me. I didn’t think
this was possible, I use to do everything myself
and couldn’t grow really big. I was afraid to
turn things over to people. As a result of my mom going
into the episode, I figured out you can find
great people and they can run things and run them
better than you. Now I can have 3 businesses running
without me and they have grown substantially.<\/p>\n
Some friends stopped talking to me when they found
out my mom had bipolar disorder. Other friends helped
so much. One friend helped me put together a strategy
to deal with the evil Mr. Mundy who was a d.ebt collector
after my mom and then after me. NOTE-Mr. Mundy was
the collector I called the incarnation of absolute
pure evil. When you talked to him, you seriously
felt like you were speaking to pure evil. He had
no soul. He was ruthless. He lied. He was mean.
I remember him saying, “I don’t care what your mom
has, she could die for all I care. You better
pay her de.bts or we will destroy you.”<\/p>\n
made so many threats he made my mom worse. I remember
he got a list of everyone who lived next to my mom
and he called them. He actually convinced one neighbor
to bring her cordless phone over to my mom’s house
so he could talk to her.<\/p>\n
to lose a lot of sleep. My friend helped me
launch a counter attack against him. He put so much
pressure on my, I couldn’t think straight. He called
me relentlessly on every phone number all day.
I asked my friend to help. <\/p>\n
to make a long story short, Mr. Mundy was demoted and
in serious trouble at his collector company. All calls were
stopped to my mom and we got an apology. People
in the collector office said, “wow, no one ever controlled
Mundy before.” My friend was the key person to help.<\/p>\n
thankful. But she showed what a great friend she was.<\/p>\n
you some good things to think about if
you have a lot of problems because of
bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
I’ll get it to you first thing tomorrow
morning. Have a great day.<\/p>\n
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/catalog.asp<\/a><\/p>\n
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/supporterblog\/<\/a><\/p>\n
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http:\/\/bipolarcentral.libsyn.com<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
to ask for some help.<\/p>\n
great comments on my blog called “Graham N.”
If you are him or know him, please have an email
sent to feedbacktodave@mentalhealthworld.net<\/p>\n
and it’s based on the total nightmare day
I had yesterday.<\/p>\n