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Hi,<\/p>\n
What’s new?<\/p>\n
Hope you are doing well.<\/p>\n
My bipolar blog is not well.
It’s ill and might be beyond
repair.<\/p>\n
Seriously, I may have to get
a new service. All my tech people
are thinking about it.<\/p>\n
I will let you know. If I do
switch services, it will be easy
for you but the blog will probably
look different.<\/p>\n
I have something funny to tell
you about my bipolar blog.<\/p>\n
Lots of excitement on the blog
over the last few days.<\/p>\n
Thank you everyone that posted
positive messages to myself or
others who needed help or support.<\/p>\n
Yesterday I wrote a list of all
the things I get accused of. <\/p>\n
One of them is that I don’t have
a mother. I wrote that how in
the world can I not have a mother
if was born. Everyone born
has a mother right?<\/p>\n
Then I noted that I guess that
I could not have a mother if I
was born in a lab.<\/p>\n
Some wrote me and said:<\/p>\n
“Hello David,<\/p>\n
I saw your post. I love your material
I just wanted to let you know I have
done a lot of research on child birth.
If you were born in a lab, you still
would still technically have a mother
so you were wrong. Just kidding. Hang
in there, you’re doing a great job.”
-Dan<\/p>\n
I stand corrected. So no matter
what I have to have a mom \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n
Okay, enough with the jokes.<\/p>\n
I was thinking about some of the
posts and emails over the
last few days I got that
were of an attacking nature.<\/p>\n
Then my friend called. I told
him what happen and he was amazed.<\/p>\n
He said, “man, don’t these people
realize how much time you put
into this stuff and that you are
just trying to help people so they
don’t have the same problems you
had with your mom?”<\/p>\n
I said “yes many do but some don’t.”<\/p>\n
The I got to thinking about something
amazing with bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
Before I tell you, let me remind
everyone what started this.<\/p>\n
The other day a bunch of people
got mad when I said that people have
to step in and get Britney Spears on the right
track. <\/p>\n
Basically some said that I was blaming the
family instead of the patient.<\/p>\n
People keep asking who is to blame?
The patient or the family.<\/p>\n
I find that many times, the disorder is
so darn sneaky and tricky that it’s
to blame.<\/p>\n
It tries to confuse both the person
with bipolar disorder and the supporters.<\/p>\n
The other thing that it does and this is
amazing. And I mean amazing.<\/p>\n
Some how bipolar disorder can figure out
away to turn two people on the same team (allies)
against one another all while it does
more harm.<\/p>\n
Let me explain. So many times when I was
growing up, my mom’s bipolar disorder,
when it was out of control, would create a
situation where different family members
would be mad at one another and would
be separated and never join forces
against it. It being bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
Now I think of bipolar disorder as a
“thing”, “it” or person so if you follow
this thinking, and think of this
as like a war….this is the amazing
part.<\/p>\n
If you were fighting a war, would
one of your strategies be to
turn two allies against one another
so then you wouldn’t have to battle
them together and they would battle
each other? Of course.<\/p>\n
In my mom’s last major episode and
actually her last minor episode
my dad and I wound up getting into
huge fights.<\/p>\n
So many times I was fighting two
battles. One against my mom’s
bipolar and one against my dad’s
thinking.<\/p>\n
I remember this one time. My mom
was in an episode. This was a secondary
episode after the first major episode.
Before I knew about what I call
“The bipolar doomsday scenario.”<\/p>\n
So my mom was going into an episode
and I was trying to help get it
under control. My mom wanted to stop
working, start spending money and
was making a million phone calls
to people saying all kinds of things.<\/p>\n
My system prevented her from spending,
then I told her she should continue
working.<\/p>\n
She said fine and then said she
would stop making calls and call
her doctor. She sounded sincere
so I believed her.<\/p>\n
At the same time, later I found
out she would call my dad and tell him
that I was mistreating her, demanding
she work, give me money, wouldn’t let
her make phone calls, etc.<\/p>\n
I didn’t know this was happening.<\/p>\n
Then one day the episode was getting
out of control. I went over to
see my mom, and she wasn’t there.<\/p>\n
Then I got there and I was going
to talk to my dad. He was really
mean and cold to me. <\/p>\n
Then he told me that my mom shouldn’t
be working so hard. I told him she isn’t
working that hard and she should be working,
exercising like the doctor said, etc.<\/p>\n
I also said if she doesn’t get better
in 2 days, I am calling the doctor myself.<\/p>\n
Then my dad said that he was going
to allow me to mistreat my mother
and that I wasn’t going to “browbeat”
her anymore.<\/p>\n
I was like, “what the heck are you
talking about?????” So then he
went into this entire thing
about all the stuff I supposedly
did.<\/p>\n
I said, “dad, I never said or did
any of that. Did you forget that mom’s
in an episode right now? Why are you
believing what she is saying and not
me.”<\/p>\n
So then he was giving me an attitude.<\/p>\n
We argued for about 2 hours. HUGE
WASTE OF TIME.<\/p>\n
I was SUPER MAD. I called my mom
on her cell phone and asked where she
was. I told her that she had said stuff
that was not true and we were going
to clear it all up. I warned her
that I was at the end of my rope
and that I would probably never speak
to her ever again after today.<\/p>\n
I told her when she comes home we will
go over everything from a to z.<\/p>\n
The other amazing thing I have noticed
with bipolar disorder, is when you catch
it, and you are 100% focused and sure
you are right, it backs down. This is
a very complicated thing for me to
explain via email. Anyway, my mom
came home way later, I waited. <\/p>\n
When she came in, I basically
said to her, “I am sick of this
and have better stuff to do in
my life than waste my time dealing
with you guys. I will probably never
speak to either one of you again
after today and I don’t care. <\/p>\n
But I am going to make sure that
you know what was said about me was a
100% lie. I have proof of everything
including: how much work I recommended
mom do, how many calls she was making
and to who, the fact that she hasn’t called
her doctor, the fact that she is in
an episode, the fact that she has lied
about a lot of stuff (NOTE-now I look
at it as bipolar disorder not my mom but
back then I would say she lied).<\/p>\n
Then I asked my mom question after
question and she tried to talk through
me and ramble. I would say, “mom, if you
can’t answer yes or no, I am done and will
just leave and you will never see me again.”<\/p>\n
I was so mad at this point I could seriously
run around the earth twice. I was
so mad that I felt that I could run to
Route 80 and jog west to California with
no break. I have never been so mad in
my life. I couldn’t believe my dad
didn’t believe me. I couldn’t believe
he thought the things he did. It made
no sense. <\/p>\n
I asked him, “why would I take off almost
a year from work to help mom if I am such
a mean bad son that mistreats her????”<\/p>\n
He had no answer.<\/p>\n
Anyway, after 45 minutes of my mom being on “the stand”
my mom came clean and said that I didn’t mistreat
her or do any of that stuff. She admitted
that she didn’t call the doctor and that she
kind of liked how mania felt and was holding
off for a few more days.<\/p>\n
Immediately we all called the doctor and in
one day she was fine. Her doctor changed
her medication slightly. I learned a ton.<\/p>\n
NOTE-I can’t get into this today. Actually
I have spent almost 2 hours writing this.
BUT, I have a way to really talk to a person
in an episode. I explain this in my courses\/systems.
But I will say, you have to be direct and be
very serious. Bipolar knows when to give up
and throw in the towel. When you are super
direct, it generally backs down. It’s kind of
hard to explain here. Check out my course\/systems
for more info. <\/p>\n
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER? SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER? HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER? Anyway, during the entire thing my dad sat in I know this is going to sound bad I started telling my dad that bipolar loves him I know that’s terrible but I was super mad. I know some will write and say, “I can’t I am just telling the truth so people out I told my Aunt as well about what happen When I thought about it, we were spending I always say exactly what happen and I know But, I really do believe that my dad gets lazy I teach in my courses\/systems below, the I seriously didn’t talk to my dad for a month. I wound up having to use diffuse Luckily I could take off work I notice that this phenomenon doesn’t It’s common that:<\/p>\n -a boyfriend and girlfriend fight each -a husband and wife fight each other -a brother and sister turn against each other -a friend fights with another friend instead So much time is wasted and the bipolar I know that some with think that I am Let me ask you a question. Has this If you find yourself having this happen. There was a person who posted an This person has a good point. It’s one I have seen bipolar supporters go I see if so many times where I volunteer.<\/p>\n My mom doesn’t lie. It’s her bipolar Today my dad is much more proactive. He Hey, I just looked at the clock and Catch you tomorrow.<\/p>\n Also, if you have ever been split with Your Friend,<\/p>\n Dave<\/p>\n P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
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amazement. He was amazed that he had
been taken. He had been fooled. He
had turned against me. He knew that
he was wrong. <\/p>\n
of me but that’s when I started telling
my dad that “bipolar loves you.” <\/p>\n
because it can easily fool him and
he doesn’t think. Keep in mind I spent
hours defending myself. I also told my
dad I was going to make “bipolar loves
my dad” bumper stickers and sell them on
ebay. LOL. <\/p>\n
Read my story and imagine after all the work
I put in, I get accused of mistreating my
mom. Imagine how I felt.<\/p>\n
believe you said that to your dad. You’re
a bad person. Shame on you. You are evil.
You aren’t respectful. Etc.”<\/p>\n
there that feel and do the same stuff don’t
feel bad. I don’t feel bad for saying it.<\/p>\n
and she was mad at my dad for getting
mad at me. <\/p>\n
more time getting mad at each other instead
of bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
some people will think that I am out of my
mind, mean, crazy, have bipolar disorder
myself, etc. I am sure my favorite most
critical person on my list will write
and post hate messages. Oh well. I just
want to tell you the truth about what happen
and what I did so you can relate and learn
something.<\/p>\n
when it comes to thinking about bipolar
disorder. As a result he gets bad results.<\/p>\n
quit investigation when you hear something
that is not true. This is super important.<\/p>\n
Today I understand it’s because bipolar disorder
splits allies.<\/p>\n
my efforts instead of having focus
on her bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
and make all happen.<\/p>\n
just happen to me, it happens to lots
of people who deal with bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
instead of bipolar fully<\/p>\n
instead of bipolar fully<\/p>\n
instead of turning against bipolar fully<\/p>\n
of fighting bipolar fully<\/p>\n
winds up getting worse and getting
over because while the fighting is
taking place it is doing everything
it can to dig it self in so that
stability can’t be regained.<\/p>\n
out of my mind when I keep talking as if
it is “something” but it is.<\/p>\n
ever happen to you?<\/p>\n
Make a peace treaty with the person
you are fighting with and focus on the
real enemy–bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
attack on me the other day. Someone who works
for me said that it’s really said
when bipolar disorder makes a supporter
so crazy, so angry, so hateful they posted
strange, illogical messages and attack
someone who is helping instead of spending
all their time attacking the real enemy
which is bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
thing to post strange messages if you
are in a bipolar episode and you kind
of have a reason but when you don’t
even have bipolar disorder and do
this, it’s really sad.<\/p>\n
almost crazy with anger and lose it
with people who don’t deserve it.<\/p>\n
disorder that does. If she becomes unstable,
it will lie. But my mom tells the truth.
It sounds crazy but that’s the way it is.<\/p>\n
would never just believe anything. He
has better training and now takes stuff
more seriously and isn’t as lazy.<\/p>\n
I have to get going. I am actually
going to a library in the middle of
New Jersey all day or maybe half
the day today. <\/p>\n
an ally because of bipolar, post to my
blog. Thanks.<\/p>\n
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/catalog.asp<\/a><\/p>\n
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/supporterblog\/<\/a><\/p>\n
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http:\/\/bipolarcentral.libsyn.com<\/p>\n