Hi,<\/p>\n
How’s it going?<\/p>\n
Hope you are doing well.<\/p>\n
Before I get started, I wanted to
tell you that I have recorded 30 podcasts
for bipolar supporters and bipolar survivors
and I am going to be posting them
on my podcast site. These are F.ree
mini lessons on bipolar disorder that
you can listen to on your computer
or on your mp3 player or ipod.<\/p>\n
I will let you know when I have
posted them. It took me half
the day yesterday to record
them all yesterday.<\/p>\n
Also, I am strongly considering
offering some f.ree coaching
sessions on people that want
to start a b.usiness and are
dealing with bipolar disorder. Not sure
how I am going to do it but
I have a few ideas.<\/p>\n
Will let you know.<\/p>\n
Okay, oh, one last thing. Something
funny. You’re going to laugh.<\/p>\n
Yesterday I was in the supermarket shopping.<\/p>\n
There was a man a woman who were there.
The woman was pushing the cart and the guy
was trailing behind her. I noticed
that he was taking cookies out of
the bin and eating them. One by one.
I saw him look around to make sure people
weren’t looking. <\/p>\n
This little girl saw him and “screamed
MOMMY…that man is stealing!!!!”<\/p>\n
The girl’s mom looked at the guy who
had a cookie in his mouth and the little
girl said, “MOMMY..he’s stealing cookies.”<\/p>\n
The mom said, “shhh. Stop it. Be quiet.”<\/p>\n
The little girl then said, “mommy stealing
is bad!!!!!.”<\/p>\n
The mom said, “I know, but we have to have
our inside voice on in the store.”<\/p>\n
It was so funny. The guy then was all red
and said, “umm. Oh, I am going to pay for
those.” His wife gave him one of those, “you
just wait until we get home….you’re going
to get it looks.”<\/p>\n
It was really funny. <\/p>\n
Today I want to talk about setting
boundaries for bipolar supporters.<\/p>\n
Yesterday I was on the phone with
a coaching client.<\/p>\n
He was really mad about something.<\/p>\n
He told me that his wife winds up
going into mini episodes all the time
and then calling him over and over
and over about urgent bipolar emergencies.<\/p>\n
He said, “it never fails, whenever I am
doing something important, my wife calls
80 times and says there is this or that
problem and I must deal with it.”<\/p>\n
He told me how he was tired of dealing
with bipolar emergencies and that it
was making him have anxiety.<\/p>\n
I listened for a while. He went on
to say this has been going on for
years and years. So long, he can’t
remember when it started. <\/p>\n
I then told him, he needs to
set boundaries. He also needs to
stop feeding the mania.<\/p>\n
In my courses\/systems: <\/p>\n
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER? SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER? HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER? I talk about how people can feed mania or make Anyway, this use to happen with my mom I would be right in the middle of something Did you know that so and so got killed My dad on the other hand wouldn’t return Like my coaching client, I had the same Eventually several months after my mom I told my mom how I wasn’t going to I told her that I wouldn’t pick up the phone BIPOLAR SURVIVOR LESSON: My accountant, use to have the same problem. If you are a bipolar supporter, you have Let your loved one know when to call, Bipolar emergencies run people into Hey, I have to go to the gym. I will Your Friend,<\/p>\n Dave<\/p>\n P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give Hi,<\/p>\n How’s it going?<\/p>\n Hope you are doing well.<\/p>\n Before I get started, I wanted to
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/a><\/p>\n
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com<\/a><\/p>\n
Visit:
http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net<\/a><\/p>\n
bipolar disorder worse. There are so
many ways, I can’t even list them
all in this email.<\/p>\n
for YEARS. My mom always had an
emergency. And guess who always got
the call? ME.<\/p>\n
super important and my mom would call
and say this or that happen. Or she
would tell me bad news of some kind.<\/p>\n
in an accident. Or that this bad thing
happen. Half the time, I would be right
in the middle of a meeting and I would
be all worried about what emergency
this was.<\/p>\n
my mom’s calls. Neither would my brother.
I always wondered why but eventually after
I got out of college, bipolar emergencies
went to me. My dad and brother must have
been thinking, “better him than me.”<\/p>\n
problems and they were really annoying.<\/p>\n
had her big episode I said, “I am not
dealing with these emergencies anymore.
She can fix her own problems.”<\/p>\n
solve her problems any more and I didn’t
want to always hear bad news from her.<\/p>\n
after 7:00pm, EST. I also warned her
that she had alienated most family members
by only calling with bipolar emergencies,
urgent issues or bad news. People in the
family equated her call with trouble and
therefore the avoided her calls.<\/p>\n
If you have bipolar disorder and you have
done this over the years because of manic
episodes, you correct this by calling
people with good news and non urgent
things over a period of time. You retrain
the people around you to no longer equate
your calls with bad stuff. Make sense?<\/p>\n
His wife had bipolar disorder and wasn’t
in treatment. She would call him 20 times
a day. I saw one day, while I met with him,
his wife called, over and over and over
to scream at him. He actually would take
the calls. Many of his clients were NOT
understanding like me and left and thought
he and his wife were crazy. Sad but true.<\/p>\n
to set boundaries with your loved one
and not get caught up in bipolar emergencies.
If you find what I just described happening
to you all the time, ask yourself the question:
“when you responded to the emergencies, did
you ever resolve anything?” Probably not,
so doing it in the future probably won’t
either.<\/p>\n
when you with respond and let them know
that you aren’t going to be fixing
all their problems. It’s not good for
you or them.<\/p>\n
the ground. If you don’t set boundaries,
you’ll wind up losing it, having no
life at all, developing anxiety and
many other bad things, if you are
a bipolar supporter.<\/p>\n
catch you tomorrow. Have a great day.<\/p>\n
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/register3<\/a><\/p>\n
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/catalog.asp<\/a><\/p>\n
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/supporterblog\/<\/a><\/p>\n
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
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tell you that I have recorded 30 podcasts
for bipolar supporters and bipolar survivors
and I am going to be posting them
on my podcast site. These are F.ree
mini lessons on bipolar disorder that
you can listen to on your computer
or on your mp3 player or ipod.<\/p>\n