=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <=\n\n
Hi,<\/p>\n
How’s it going?<\/p>\n
I hope you are doing well.<\/p>\n
What a nightmare it was for me yesterday.<\/p>\n
The second after I sent out my daily bipolar
email, I started getting calls from my mom.<\/p>\n
I thought, “oh geeze.”<\/p>\n
I was suppose to go to the library and
do some serious work. <\/p>\n
I am actually working on a book on
investing for private equity funds, hedge
funds and investment banks–really technical
stuff.<\/p>\n
So anyway, I was suppose to a lot of work
in this area in addition to some work
on bipolar disorder stuff.<\/p>\n
Plus I had a lot of meeting scheduled.
Also, I have so many people now working
on projects, I have to keep track of them.<\/p>\n
I have some amazing people who get things
done so fast and so right, the problem
is me and approving projects and moving
on to new ones. <\/p>\n
I have given extremely complicated things
to some people and they get it done
so fast weeks or a month ahead of time.<\/p>\n
Then they wait for me to look it over.
I had to do a whole lot of that yesterday.<\/p>\n
These are all bipolar related projects.<\/p>\n
So my mom called and she was talking
really fast and I knew that she was
stressed and currently manic.<\/p>\n
I thought in my head, “I just don’t
have time to deal with this right
now.”<\/p>\n
She basically she told me how her computer
was messed up but she was fixing it with
my dad. I asked where he was and she said
he left. I knew then, she wasn’t well.<\/p>\n
How did I know? My dad rarely leaves
the house before 9:00am. He does that
when my mom isn’t well to avoid having
to do anything. He has done this my entire
life.<\/p>\n
As a kid, I remember my mom not doing
well, my dad at work and my brother taking
care of me. Sometimes when I think about
it, I feel bad for him when he was a kid
and had to deal with it all by himself.<\/p>\n
But anyway, I knew that my mom wasn’t
doing well because anytime she isn’t doing
well, my dad leaves the us really early
and comes home really late.<\/p>\n
So anyway, basically my mom started
getting mad at me.<\/p>\n
So I put my foot down and said, “mom
you sound like you are manic or getting
manic and you need to make the right decision
and help yourself.”<\/p>\n
She then got mad at me and said:<\/p>\n
I am not manic stop telling me that.<\/p>\n
If I am manic, because you made me manic<\/p>\n
You’re going to put me into an episode<\/p>\n
On and on and on. I just listened and
didn’t argue.<\/p>\n
NOTE-Don’t argue with someone who is
attacking you.<\/p>\n
In my courses\/systems this is a key
strategy for both bipolar supporters
and bipolar survivors.<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER? SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER? HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER? So I said, “Mom, here’s the deal, I don’t Then my mom said, “you want me to I said, “I have to go, I am confident So I hung up.<\/p>\n Here’s the deal. These days, I refuse I could have driven to see my mom, cancelled I said to my mom that she knew what she What’s the right decision? To call her doctor So we will see what happens. I really don’t So might think this sounds mean but If I am a betting person, and I am not I am confident my mom never ever wants We’ll see. <\/p>\n Here is what I could have done and why I could have defended myself when my I could have stopped everything and I could have argued with her. I could have started yelling back. I could have called and ask my dad So that’s that.<\/p>\n Even worse yesterday I had a lady get Then I had another lady who left threatening Yesterday was one of those days that I said, I was bipolared out for the day. Imagine I have to go now. Catch you tomorrow.<\/p>\n Your Friend,<\/p>\n Dave<\/p>\n P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give =PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <\/p>\n
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have time for this. I have to go to the
library and then I have a HUGE gigantic
consulting client to talk to today and
I have to be ready and I can’t sit and
argue with you. I will not let bipolar
disorder screw up yet another thing
for me. I am expecting that you’ll
do the right thing. You know what you need
to do so I am confident that by the
end of the day you will do it.”<\/p>\n
go to the hospital???????”<\/p>\n
that you’ll make the right decision
and do what you need to do before
it gets totally out of control.”<\/p>\n
to stop my entire life and miss out
on stuff because of bipolar disorder.
I did that for so many years and will
not do it again.<\/p>\n
everything hurt my reputation in consulting
but I chose not too? Why? Well I have tried
that kind of thing and it never
worked.<\/p>\n
had to do and would make the right decision.
That’s where my focus was.<\/p>\n
and therapist and go and see them.<\/p>\n
know what happened. I had too many things
to do yesterday to check.<\/p>\n
after years and years of jumping
every single time there is a problem
and spending every last dime I ever had
on problems, I refuse to do it again.<\/p>\n
because I don’t believe in gambling,
my mom will call her doctor and therapist.<\/p>\n
to have a huge episode again. <\/p>\n
I don’t think it would work:<\/p>\n
mom or her bipolar tried to blame me.
Why not? It never works.<\/p>\n
driven over to see her.
Why not? It would have told her bipolar
that basically it can manipulate me. I have
tried them probably 100 times in the past
and failed 100 times.<\/p>\n
Why not? Arguing never works. I have tried
probably 1000 times and failed 1000 times.<\/p>\n
Why not? It never ever works. Escalation
never works. De-escalation works much
better.<\/p>\n
what was going on.
Why not? He never given valid information.
It would take me an hour to get him to
tell me the truth. He would say “she’s
doing great.” He never admits what’s
going on unless I ask 50 times in 50
ways and take about 1 hour and I don’t
have time for that kind of thing.<\/p>\n
my cell phone number and call over and over
again right before I was to talk to this
huge investment bank. She was demanding
that I fire a person named Jerry. I don’t
even have a Jerry that works for me.
It made no sense. <\/p>\n
voicemail messages. <\/p>\n
“What did I get myself into.” <\/p>\n
you have to do consulting with an investment
bank and mintues before some one is threatening
you about total nonsense.<\/p>\n
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http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/register3<\/a><\/p>\n
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
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You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
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that I have sent in the past and lots of great
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mini seminars designed to teach you information
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