=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <=\n\nHi,\n\nHow’s it going to?\n\nI hope you are doing well.\n\nI probably could write a 100 pages of this
email today. Why? <\/p>\n
Well yesterday was a total disaster for
me with bipolar. I clearly LOST the battle
yesterday but NOT the war.<\/p>\n
There are so many things I could say today.<\/p>\n
If you have been following the story,
I saw signs of a bipolar episode with
my mom about a week ago. Normally her
Novembers\/Decembers are bad for
bipolar.<\/p>\n
BUT, she does well when there is
a big problem or situation. My uncle
was in the hospital. My mom handled
it REALLY well.<\/p>\n
BIPOLAR LESSON-Learn your own or
your loved one’s patterns. They probably
hold true once you figure them out.<\/p>\n
BUT, in January he was released and
fine. <\/p>\n
At first I thought, “great, we made it
through the holidays with no problems.”<\/p>\n
I let my guard down. I kind of forgot
the second part of my mom’s pattern.
AFTER the bad situation or difficult,
a bipolar episode starts many times.<\/p>\n
THIS HAS HAPPENED TIME AND TIME AGAIN.<\/p>\n
I was thinking in my head back 20 years
and I remember this happen. Before I even
knew what my mom had.<\/p>\n
Anyway, in the past week or 10 days
the electricity went out where my
parents live. Why? It always happens.<\/p>\n
They live in an area that always has
power failures. No big deal. It’s
been like that forever.<\/p>\n
So my mom calls me a bunch of times
to tell me her power if off and she
can’t respond to any emails I send.<\/p>\n
I rarely send an email to my mom. I certainly
don’t send anything that is urgent or needs
a quick response.<\/p>\n
I knew this was a potential bipolar mini
episode sign.<\/p>\n
Then my mom called again.<\/p>\n
Now keep in mind that my mom actually
works for me which further complicates
things. She has a REAL job with me
not just a charity job.<\/p>\n
So eventually like a few hours later,
the lights came back on. My mom
then said there was a big problem with
the computer.<\/p>\n
She called me a number of times, talking
really loud. <\/p>\n
I will tell you how I thought:<\/p>\n
One part said, “Why is she telling
me about her computer problems?”<\/p>\n
The other part of me said:
“Well she is telling me because
she works for me.”<\/p>\n
So I listened. But she called many
times and it just didn’t seem to
make sense.<\/p>\n
I did believe there was a problem
with the computer but something
was rather strange.<\/p>\n
I know from her patterns, when there
is a mini bipolar episode coming,
there are MANY problems. What I mean
is this.<\/p>\n
My mom will take something that isn’t
even a problem and make a big
deal out of it. And get others
worked up as well.<\/p>\n
So I made a mental note.<\/p>\n
Then I got a bunch of calls at like
8:30pm or so this past Friday
night. I was annoyed. Why? Well I knew
they weren’t calls to say hi. I knew
it was some kind of drama.<\/p>\n
So I called back and got my dad. He
told me there was a problem with their
computer.<\/p>\n
I asked if that’s what she was calling
for because she had already called me
a whole bunch of times.<\/p>\n
He said if I knew a computer person they
could call then. I said, “at 8:30pm on a
Friday night, for a non emergency?”<\/p>\n
My dad started getting mad at me for not
being helpful. <\/p>\n
I must say, as I write this, I can’t
tell you how frustrated I am. Let me try
to explain so you don’t think that I am
a mean person.<\/p>\n
Okay, first do you know how many
times that my mom pressured my dad into
doing something about the bipolar
emergency and spending a lot of money?<\/p>\n
Well you don’t know \ud83d\ude42 Anyway, many
is the answer.<\/p>\n
Here is how it would go. My mom would
be in an episode and say there was a
big emergency. It could be anything.<\/p>\n
It could be the dishwasher didn’t work
right. The lawn wasn’t green enough.
The septic tank MIGHT be full.
The dryer was old, etc. In this case
the computer MUST BE FIXED RIGHT AWAY.
NOW!<\/p>\n
My mom would demand some kind of action
to fix the bipolar emergency that wasn’t
even an emergency.<\/p>\n
My dad would buy something, hire someone
at a cost that was so much it was a joke.
He wouldn’t even think about it, he would
just spend money to make my mom’s bipolar
happy.<\/p>\n
So the reason why I was mad about the computer
question was “Do you know how much it would
cost to get a computer person on a Friday night
for a NON emergency?” A TON!<\/p>\n
Is it that important? NO! It could wait until
Saturday.<\/p>\n
My dad like normal was giving in to bipolar.
Like he has always done for as long as I
can remember.<\/p>\n
See, my mom or her bipolar would not ask
me because they answer is no, no, no, no,
no, no, no, and no.<\/p>\n
I can’t be manipulated in this way. No
matter what. I talk about how I do
this in my bipolar supporter course.<\/p>\n
Anyway, Her bipolar gave up on me a long time ago.
So it quickly moves to my dad where it
can win an manipulate.<\/p>\n
So anyway, the computer had a problem with
the hard drive.<\/p>\n
I actually highly recommended they take
the computer to a place up in Sussex County
where I know a person who is honest and fast.<\/p>\n
Of course that didn’t happen. I really don’t
know what happen but I guarantee it cost 4
times what it should because my dad
was pressured.<\/p>\n
BIPOLAR LESSON:
When you are a bipolar supporter, you
have to stand up to bipolar and say no
a lot. Otherwise, you’ll get yourself in
a lot of trouble.<\/p>\n
If you have bipolar disorder, you should
be happy if you have a supporter to do
this for you. Most people don’t care enough
to stop you if you are in an episode and
doing something that is against your own
best interest.<\/p>\n
So anyway, basically my dad wound up getting
mad at me when I was talking to him because
like normal, it’s easier to get mad at me
than it is to deal with my mom’s bipolar.<\/p>\n
So then, basically I discover a bunch of
other things that have gone wrong.<\/p>\n
I actually had to contact my mom’s
treatment team but I forgot to do ONE
thing so I created a problem for myself.<\/p>\n
The reason was, I just did it without
reading my material on what to do.<\/p>\n
Then after I realized this, I was mad
at myself for making a mistake so I
wound up doing nothing yesterday.<\/p>\n
One thing I was thinking about was:
I wonder how all the people out there
deal with bipolar that have little
to no information on how to really deal
with it.<\/p>\n
In my courses\/systems below:<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER? SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER? HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER? I go through real strategies to handle all sorts of Then I thought about it and figured out Those with the disorder have decades of When I think about this, it makes me It’s really sad stuff. I will say this, It sounds dramatic but it’s true.<\/p>\n Another thing that is odd is this. I can I guess the moral of the story for today For those that are bipolar supporters, realize If I do nothing I run the risk of this Well I have to run. I have outlined a plan If you have my bipolar supporter course, ANOTHER BIPOLAR LESSON: As it stands now. I feel that my mom Well it’s a long road that leads to However, there are lots of “exits” on that So with the right choices and right It’s funny when I write these analogies, Hey, I have to run.<\/p>\n Tomorrow is the bipolar news as well.<\/p>\n Your Friend,<\/p>\n Dave<\/p>\n P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give =PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <\/p>\n
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situations whether you have bipolar or
your are a supporter.<\/p>\n
what they do. Supporters either leave,
throw money at the problem, or spend their
entire life being controlled by bipolar.<\/p>\n
problems and never really reaching
their full potential.<\/p>\n
feel bad because there are MILLIONS
of people suffering from bipolar
when they don’t need to be.<\/p>\n
bipolar is really tough to deal with.
If you don’t take it seriously and have
strategies to deal, you’re doomed.<\/p>\n
have 20 good things in one day and my
mom’s mini bipolar episode could erase anything
positive from those 20 good things.<\/p>\n
or the lesson is for those with bipolar
to immediately contact your doctor\/therapist
when you feel the signs of an episode.<\/p>\n
that you have to be vigilant and have
to look for the signs and then take action
right away.<\/p>\n
going into a huge bipolar episode eventually.<\/p>\n
for the day including a serious of if\/then
strategies. What’s that? Well if this, then
I will do that. I basically brainstorm
all possibilities and what my counter will
be.<\/p>\n
it’s everything in there. Actually the
reason why I am sending this email out
so late is because this morning I was
reading my manual again and also listening
to some of my success interviews to build
my strength for what effectively will
be a counter attack against my mom’s
bipolar disorder which clearly beat me yesterday.<\/p>\n
Get mad at bipolar not your loved one and
separate the bipolar from your loved one.<\/p>\n
is on the road of a bipolar mini episode.
She is NOT there yet.
What’s the road of a bipolar mini episode.<\/p>\n
the state of a HUGE bipolar episode. If
someone turns take an exit on this
road it leads right to a bipolar mini
episode and then the next town is called
bipolar huge episode. That’s the kind
of town people don’t want to be in \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n
road. One of the exits is the town called
“stability.”<\/p>\n
supporter, I feel that this will not
escalate to a huge bipolar episode.<\/p>\n
people write me that I am crazy or
this or that. But I am sure you understand
what I am talking about and the point
that I am trying to make.<\/p>\n
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