=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <=\n\n
Hi,<\/p>\n
How’s it going?<\/p>\n
I am dead tired. Why? Well last night
I had to volunteer and it went on for
hours and hours and hours.<\/p>\n
It ended really late and I didn’t get home
until like 11:30pm and then I had a bunch
of stuff todo.<\/p>\n
As I sat listening to last night’s speaker,
I was kind of getting annoyed. Why?<\/p>\n
Well the speaker was a person with bipolar
disorder but spent 95% of the time talking
about how much of her was a nightmare.<\/p>\n
I didn’t understand it because she is
successful now. She has her own business,
she is a writer, has a family, etc.<\/p>\n
BUT, she never spoke about:<\/p>\n
-How she started her own business
-Coping strategies for dealing with bipolar disorder
-How she explained bipolar disorder to her kids
-How she works with her doctor
-Ways that she gets to sleep when she can’t
-What were the exact keys to her success
-How often she sees a therapist
-How she was able to raise little kids with bipolar disorder
-How she was able to graduate college and get other post graduate
degrees<\/p>\n
Etc.
Etc.
Etc.
Etc.<\/p>\n
The entire thing turned into this. It’s like
bipolar took over the room and then people in
the room started telling their bipolar horror
stories oh how bad it is or how bad they
have had it.<\/p>\n
There were many bipolar supporters sitting
in the audience looking depressed.<\/p>\n
I started to feel depressed. I heard about
horrible depression, gigantic manic episodes
and also how almost there’s not a lot of hope.<\/p>\n
After this was presented, several bipolar supporters
raised their hands with questions like:<\/p>\n
Can my son\/daughter be normal?<\/p>\n
Can my son\/daughter go to college?<\/p>\n
Can my loved one be happy ever?<\/p>\n
Is there hope for my loved one<\/p>\n
The entire thing really turned so negative
that so many supporters wound up being
worried that there loved one was DOOMED.<\/p>\n
I leaned over to a person that also volunteers
and I was like, “Is this really negative or
what?” He was like, “Yea, it is.” <\/p>\n
I said, “Why don’t we have at least 50\/50? 50%
negative and 50% positive.” He said, “Yea it
should be that way.”<\/p>\n
There was really no message of hope delivered.<\/p>\n
I noticed that many bipolar supporters were
really uncomfortable and had that “wow,
there’s not a lot of hope, this is a horrible
disorder that will just doom my loved one.”<\/p>\n
Here’s the deal. Bipolar support groups
are okay. Some are better than others.
Some are more positive than others. Many however
are just places people go and complain and
vent.<\/p>\n
I want you to remember this if you are
a bipolar supporter and going to a support
group. The most successful people generally
do NOT, and I repeat, do NOT go to these
groups.<\/p>\n
They are home making it happen and don’t.<\/p>\n
Want to hear something crazy? Well out of
every person that is high functioning
that works for me that has bipolar disorder,
ZERO, go to support groups.<\/p>\n
Also, I can only think of one bipolar success
story that I interviewed in the last THREE
years that regularly go to a support group
to give back and teach.<\/p>\n
These are just the facts. I know that I will
get some people who are mad that I said this
but these are the facts. There is a book
written by a girl where she goes across the
country looking for successful people with
bipolar disorder. She doesn’t find as many
as she thought. Why? well she is looking
in the wrong spot.<\/p>\n
I spend a TON and I mean a TON of money
to find successful people with bipolar
disorder. You don’t find them in support
groups.<\/p>\n
Bipolar supporters have to realize this
and not go to these meetings and then think
that their loved one is doomed because
they don’t see successful people at
the meetings.<\/p>\n
Finally, I am solution and strategy driven.
Many of these groups are not. You just
have to realize that. <\/p>\n
A question was asked:<\/p>\n
“My son is resistant to treatment and doesn’t
want any. What can we do?”<\/p>\n
No one gave this lady who asked the question
an answer. They said things like, “have faith.”<\/p>\n
There are things that you can do. There’s
lots of them. <\/p>\n
People just don’t know. <\/p>\n
In my courses\/systems below:<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER? SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER? HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER? I outline over 22 techniques. How did I come I then compiled the results and listed techniques I also interviewed the people who came up with That’s why my list is a good one. It was a big But people last that meeting thinking that there I don’t say a lot at these meetings. I ask some soft I don’t feel it’s appropriate to challenge speakers I just rolled my eyes. So I guess that means Even though I don’t have bipolar disorder, a) because they are insulting people b) they are insulting me because I hire c) they are causing people to think negatively d) they are saying stupid things that cause I will never forget when she NOTE-I actually tracked this teacher down, of course, SECOND NOTE-I had another teacher Mrs. Nesnay She told me that if I do something to always Whenever I do something I seriously have it I tracked her down as well and she was WARNING! You have to be really careful when Some bipolar supporters say, “We are never I have met many a bipolar supporter who At these meetings I don’t ever correct For example, I didn’t rattle off 15 to 22 A long time ago, I made the decision that So I setup chairs, hand out literature, There’s another support group that is Anyway, this one has been like defunded There isn’t one planned for at least the I guess they are running out of money. I am BUT, I still go and volunteer and have now The one good thing it does is it allows me You know what? I think that I am going to Did I ever tell you about the support group They told me that the didn’t have money to Bottom line is this. If you are a bipolar I wanted to send this email so you know Hey I have to run, I will catch you tomorrow.<\/p>\n Your Friend,<\/p>\n Dave<\/p>\n P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give =PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <\/p>\n
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up with these? Well I invented and used
like about 7 myself. And then I spend about
$50,000 to build a mailing list and then
survey people on the list for the best methods.<\/p>\n
that were successfully used by at least 5 different
people.<\/p>\n
the technique for further clarification. <\/p>\n
joint effort.<\/p>\n
is no way. <\/p>\n
ball questions (ones that are easy to answer).<\/p>\n
unless they are doctors or therapists. Even if
they do, I rarely do. I heard one doctor say
basically a person with bipolar disorder can’t
really be in a job that requires responsibility.<\/p>\n
that all the people that I have working for me
with bipolar disorder shouldn’t be working
for me?<\/p>\n
I take personal offense when someone says
this kind of thing. <\/p>\n
who are my friends<\/p>\n
people with bipolar disorder<\/p>\n
of people with bipolar disorder<\/p>\n
people to not reach their full potential. I remember
as a kid one teacher that told me that I would not
amount to anything. That I was dumb and that I would
never do well in school. <\/p>\n
said it to me. I can tell you exactly where I was
in school, what the day was like, what I was
wearing and what she was wearing. I felt like
a moron. <\/p>\n
and reminded her about what she said. She couldn’t
seem to remember and said she always knew that I would
do well. Yea sure. <\/p>\n
that told me the opposite. She told me
I was super smart and gifted. I now know she
was making it up \ud83d\ude42 but it sounded good
at the time.<\/p>\n
do it big and as best I can. Actually I will
say this. It was her that caused me to want
to do well in school and always do well
at everything.<\/p>\n
programmed to do it big and grand. Just like
this bipolar stuff. This is an extension of
the principles that Mrs. Nesnay the great
teacher instilled in me.<\/p>\n
really happy to see me. I told her if she
ever needed anything anytime to call and
I would get it done. She is a great person.<\/p>\n
you are a bipolar supporter not to destroy or
crush your loved one’s hopes and dreams. You
want them to be stable but you can’t
put so many constraints on them that they
stop learning and progressing. <\/p>\n
going to have an episode like this again
and I am going to micromanage your life
so it doesn’t happen. You’ll never do
this, that and the other thing.” This is
so important that I am going to be talking about
this in upcoming articles and podcasts.<\/p>\n
does this and many speakers that talk about
doing this.<\/p>\n
speakers or speak over them so to speak. <\/p>\n
ways to help get a loved one into
treatment. I didn’t feel that would be
right.<\/p>\n
I would not do this and I would just keep
my mouth shut and just volunteer.<\/p>\n
answer questions if I am asked them directly,
move tables around in one place.<\/p>\n
incredible that is much more upbeat and
way more productive.<\/p>\n
and there were very few meetings for 2007.
Sad but true. <\/p>\n
next 4 months. They have a super small
get together every week with about 8 people
but that’s it. <\/p>\n
not sure. The other place I volunteer is okay
but it’s a little too negative for me as well.<\/p>\n
for years. Many people who work for me ask
why I go because they think it’s a waste of
my time. <\/p>\n
to talk person to person to see what problems
and issues people have with bipolar disorder and
also not to lose touch with it so then I can
come up with new podcasts, articles, ebooks,
books, guides, courses, manuals, etc.<\/p>\n
put on my list of things to do to write a
f.ree guide on how to run a support
group and also how to market it. Don’t even
get me started on the marketing end.<\/p>\n
I volunteered at that had incredible and I mean
incredible speakers AND food but only 18 people
in attendance. Keep in mind there are 9 million
people in New Jersey and millions more in the
states next to Jersey. <\/p>\n
market or know how to do it? I told them
that I would do ALL the marketing for them,
and pay for it. They said, “well let’s see
if we can get approval for that.” That was
three years ago, I guess they are still working
on the approval. <\/p>\n
supporter, realize what you are getting when
you go to these support groups. Don’t get
discouraged if you don’t see success. <\/p>\n
the real deal.<\/p>\n
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/register3<\/a><\/p>\n
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/catalog.asp<\/a><\/p>\n
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/supporterblog\/<\/a><\/p>\n
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http:\/\/bipolarcentral.libsyn.com<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"