{"id":5297,"date":"2008-02-05T09:34:00","date_gmt":"2008-02-05T14:34:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/setting-yourself-up-for-this-common-bipolar-mistake\/"},"modified":"2008-02-05T09:34:00","modified_gmt":"2008-02-05T14:34:00","slug":"setting-yourself-up-for-this-common-bipolar-mistake","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/bipolarsupporterblog\/setting-yourself-up-for-this-common-bipolar-mistake\/","title":{"rendered":"Setting yourself up for this common bipolar mistake?"},"content":{"rendered":"

=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <=\n\n
Hi,<\/p>\n

Hey, how’s it going?<\/p>\n

Hope you are doing really well.<\/p>\n

I am really, really, really, really
tired \ud83d\ude42 I have been working on a
whole bunch of things.<\/p>\n

I must say, I am very happy with
the progress that I have made recruiting
very important people and companies to
help grow this organization for bipolar
disorder.<\/p>\n

I have contracted with a number of new
companies, hired a bunch of people, many
of which have bipolar disorder and taken
on some volunteers. I actually am going
to be sending a message out looking for
new volunteers very soon. I’ll
keep you posted.<\/p>\n

So, today I wanted to talk about
something that I see bipolar supporters
doing wrong a lot.<\/p>\n

I call it, setting yourself up for
the permanent caretaker.<\/p>\n

NOTE-This is in reference to if
you are helping an ADULT with
bipolar disorder NOT a child or teen.
That’s a different situation.<\/p>\n

If you find yourself having to
do a whole bunch of things to
live with, work with, support
a loved one with bipolar disorder,
there’s something wrong with his\/her
treatment plan (in my opinion) or
there are many variables “off” in
the person’s bipolar stability equation.<\/p>\n

NOTE-I am NOT a doctor, lawyer,
therapist or other kind of professional.
I am NOT offering medical, legal or financial
advice.<\/p>\n

Okay, so what do I mean by “things.” What
are things you might be asking. Here are some
of them:<\/p>\n

-Having to walk on eggshells<\/p>\n

-Not being able to go in entire parts of
your house, apartment or resident because
if you do, your loved one will explode<\/p>\n

-Having to constantly watch what you say<\/p>\n

-Constantly being worried and not knowing
if you’re loved one will be angry, happy
or something else.<\/p>\n

-Having to follow your loved one around
checking to make sure the person went to
the doctor, therapy, took their medications,
etc.<\/p>\n

-Handling all their important communications
with others. <\/p>\n

If this is you, these are all signs that your
loved one isn’t doing well and the treatment plan is
wrong probably. You need to inform the
doctor and therapist about this right
away.<\/p>\n

I notice that people in this situation wind
up becoming a caretaker instead of a supporter.<\/p>\n

In my mind, a caretaker is what someone who
is really old has or what someone with Alzheimer’s
has. It’s a person that “handles” everything
for them forever to the end of time.<\/p>\n

My Grandfather had Alzheimer’s and he had
first my Grandmother as his caretaker and
then he was put into a home. He was not
expected to do stuff on his own.<\/p>\n

See the difference between caretaker
and supporter?<\/p>\n

Notice that with my material, I don’t refer
to people as bipolar caretakers. Imagine
that? <\/p>\n

You are a bipolar supporter if you
are helping a loved one with bipolar
disorder. NOT a permanent caretaker.<\/p>\n

You have to make sure that whatever you
are doing it:<\/p>\n

-is not going to require you do it forever
(for example, you can watch someone take
his\/her medication for a few weeks or months
but not forever)<\/p>\n

-the person will become responsible for him\/herself
and not have you being responsible for all
their actions<\/p>\n

-your plan or strategy to help your loved
one feels like it’s driving you into an early
grave as it goes on years and years into
the future.<\/p>\n

In my courses\/systems below:<\/p>\n

SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/a><\/p>\n

SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com<\/a><\/p>\n

HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER?
Visit:
http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net<\/a><\/p>\n

I talk about strategies that are geared
towards helping a loved one with
bipolar become independent OR how
to become independent if you have
bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n

I think many people forget to tell
people that bipolar disorder is NOT
an illness where someone should be
taken care of for the rest of their
lives.<\/p>\n

If you find yourself in this situation,
I believe you need to work with a doctor
to get the treatment plan correct AND
also look at your bipolar stability
equation.<\/p>\n

If you have bipolar disorder:
Are you moving towards being independent,
responsible for yourself or do you have
caretakers?<\/p>\n

If you are a bipolar supporter, are
you becoming a caretaker or supporter?<\/p>\n

Ask yourself these tough questions.<\/p>\n

With that said, I have to run. I’ll
catch you tomorrow.<\/p>\n

Your Friend,<\/p>\n

Dave<\/p>\n

P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/register3<\/a><\/p>\n

P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/catalog.asp<\/a><\/p>\n

P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/supporterblog\/<\/a><\/p>\n

P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http:\/\/bipolarcentral.libsyn.com<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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