=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <=\n\n
Hi,<\/p>\n
How’s it going?<\/p>\n
I wanted to let you know, I will
be posting a f.ree interview that I did
on bipolar disorder. It’s one of my
best interviews ever.<\/p>\n
It’s almost 2 hours long. It will be
posted online for you to listen. I need
about a week to get it all ready to
go for you.<\/p>\n
Well yesterday I went to that meeting.<\/p>\n
I actually took this short cut and it
turned into a long cut. You won’t believe
this but I was driving towards New York
which is east of me. Then all of a sudden
I was almost back where I lived some
how taking all these shortcuts and
“back roads.”<\/p>\n
Needless to say, I was 45 minutes
late \ud83d\ude42 But the meeting started
late. <\/p>\n
Where did I go? I went to a big
conference with successful business
people.<\/p>\n
It was really interesting. At lunch
I sat down next to a very big guy. He
was taller and bigger than me. Not out
of shape just big.<\/p>\n
He asked what I did. At this particular
meeting, I told everyone about my mental
health organization. I usually only pick
one thing to talk about. If you tell
someone you have 4 different businesses,
they will think you are insane.<\/p>\n
So he asked a whole bunch of questions
about bipolar disorder and borderline personality
disorder. <\/p>\n
I told him how my mom thinks she has borderline
personality disorder as well and so does
her therapist but her doctor doesn’t want
her to have another label so the doctor has
the final say and the therapist respects that.<\/p>\n
So far, the doctor’s plan is working just fine.
Anyway, did you know what? I mentioned this
before a few months back. I don’t make a big
deal about it.<\/p>\n
Michele Soloway has bipolar AND borderline
personality disorder as well as one other
person that works for me I think.<\/p>\n
Anyway, this big business guy who had a financial
services business, said, “I was married to a
woman for 29 years with borderline personality
disorder and maybe bipolar disorder.”<\/p>\n
He told me how he lived in fear an called
it “29 years of hell on earth.” He told
me how hard it was to deal with her, how
erratic it was. How he tried everything
to help her and how she basically destroyed
the family for much of those 29 years.<\/p>\n
I explained what happen with my family
and how my mom wasn’t well a whole lot of
time.<\/p>\n
He then asked if there were really any
ways to help people like his ex wife.
I told him yes. I told him all I knew
for the person with borderline and bipolar
disorder. What the keys were. I also
indicated that I was not a doctor, therapist,
attorney, or other kind of professional.<\/p>\n
He was amazed that I had put the entire organization
together that helps people with these illnesses,
both supporters and survivors,
and was further amazed that I had
not only my mom working for me but other people
with a mental illnesses. He said he knew
many people who did as well.<\/p>\n
One thing I told him about is the concept
of “standing up to bipolar disorder.” Or
in his case it would have been standing up
to both bipolar and borderline. I told him
how appeasement doesn’t work.<\/p>\n
He said that he didn’t think it’s possibly.
I told him that if you don’t you end up
with years and decades of misery.<\/p>\n
That’s what happen to my dad.<\/p>\n
What’s the stand up to bipolar disorder
concept? It’s basically you set up
boundaries and you don’t allow the person
with bipolar disorder to cross these boundaries.<\/p>\n
It’s also pushing in every legal way possibly
to get a person into treatment.<\/p>\n
If that fails, and you are being abused as a supporter
like this person was, I recommend you leave the person.<\/p>\n
I never endorse living with someone for decades
and they refuse treatment and they wind up
hitting you and hurting you. I know many people
who end up like this. Those that are like
this justify it for the following reasons:<\/p>\n
their religion frowns down on divorce
-I don’t know of any religions that would
really want you to stay with someone that is so
out of control they hit you.<\/p>\n
they have kids
-Even if you have kids, if you live
with someone way out of control for 5, 10,
20 years and just stay, your kids will be
negatively affected. Just think about
my brother and why he is the way he
is.<\/p>\n
they don’t think it’s right to abandon someone
-I don’t either. BUT, if you exhaust 25
ways to try to get someone in treatment over a
few years, you can reasonably say that you did
all that you could. I seriously would have tried
for probably 3 years to get my mom into treatment
trying each method I knew one by one plus others
I learned but I would have given up after 25
to 30 different techniques and 3 years. <\/p>\n
Remember you have to draw the line somewhere.
If you don’t figure out what you will not
accept you wind up having no line and
things get worse and worse and worse. Before
you know it, you have no life and bipolar
disorder has taken over and you are like
prisoner.<\/p>\n
The guy that I spoke to yesterday, drew the line
after 29 years. That’s a long time. That’s
probably more than half his life kind of wasted.<\/p>\n
In my mind, I believe in, try EVERYTHING that
you can do to help someone with bipolar disorder
that’s legal. Try for a while. <\/p>\n
Get materials like mine if you can<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER? SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER? HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER? Or you can go to many support groups, find other Do you think that I am too harsh?<\/p>\n Your Friend,<\/p>\n Dave<\/p>\n P.S. Want your own copy of these daily bipolar P.P.S. Don’t forget to take a look through the P.P.P.S. Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails P.P.P.P.S Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give =PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <\/p>\n
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarsupporter.com\/report11<\/a><\/p>\n
Visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarparenting.com<\/a><\/p>\n
Visit:
http:\/\/www.survivebipolar.net<\/a><\/p>\n
successful people dealing with bipolar disorder,
talk to doctors and therapists. Try what they
say to help a loved one and then after years and
years of trying various strategies and tactics
might be time to leave.<\/p>\n
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/register3<\/a><\/p>\n
different programs I’ve put together… each one is designed
to help you with a different area of bipolar disorder whether
you have it or you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/catalog.asp<\/a><\/p>\n
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/supporterblog\/<\/a><\/p>\n
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
http:\/\/bipolarcentral.libsyn.com<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"