=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <=\n\nHi,\n\nHow’s it going? I hope you had a great
Easter if you celebrate it.<\/p>\n
I didn’t do much. I actually went over
to my mom and dad’s house to eat.
I didn’t eat to much because I am
lowering my body fat so there are many
things that I can’t eat right now.<\/p>\n
So know chocolate for me.<\/p>\n
Oh and another thing. I am actually
thinking about volunteering in another
organization. It’s an organization that visits
people in the worst possible psychiatric institutions.
People who get no visitors. People who never will
be released probably. People who really have
severe mental illness. I am not talking about bipolar
disorder. Illnesses there really aren’t ways to manage
it. Illnesses with no real name.<\/p>\n
My accountant says that I don’t have time for this
kind of stuff. He is kind of down on the entire mental
health thing. He says that I need to work hard in
things that maximize roi and in his mind that’s
not mental health it’s my other businesses. <\/p>\n
I don’t agree with him but his job is to look out
for me. <\/p>\n
Anyway, I am pretty sure that I am going to
start volunteering for this organization and help
them get the word out. The person who runs it
is a incredible guy with bipolar disorder. He thought
of the idea a while ago and wants to spread it all
over the country. I am not sure how much I can
help with that because I am super busy but
I can show up in various places and visit people. <\/p>\n
Anyway, I think this is a great organization. I think
that someone has to help the people that have no help
at all. You see if you are on my list, you are either helping
someone or helping yourself. There are people that can’t
help themselves. AND they have no one to help them.<\/p>\n
They have severe and I mean severe mental illness
and it’s really sad. But you can’t forget about these people.<\/p>\n
So I am strongly considering volunteering with this
organization. I just have to figure out how to find
the time.<\/p>\n
Hmmm.<\/p>\n
Anyway, I wanted to talk about
something super important today.<\/p>\n
I call it\u2026.<\/p>\n
FRUSTRATED EXPECTATIONS<\/p>\n
I know it’s a big deal to some, if
not most of you, for two reasons.
number #1, because I’m a supporter
myself, and I know that I have
frustrated expectations, and
number #2, because so many of you
have written and called me and tell me
the same thing.<\/p>\n
So what are frustrated expectations?
Exactly what it says! No, don’t send me
hate mail because I’m treating you like a
dummy, I’m not, believe me. I just want
you to follow along with me. And remember,
I’m one of the people I’m talking about!<\/p>\n
See, we bring something to the table \u2013
being supporters of a loved one with
bipolar disorder, we bring to the table
all our fears, hurt, anger, resentments,
loneliness, all our negative feelings\u2026
And, yes, our expectations. <\/p>\n
Then those expectations aren’t met.
They’re frustrated.<\/p>\n
Why? I’ll tell you why.<\/p>\n
Because most of us, looking back,
never expected to be where (and who)
we are at this point in our lives.<\/p>\n
We were sold a dream way back when
that did not include taking care of a loved
one with bipolar disorder, and everything
which that includes, especially our time and
emotions.<\/p>\n
No one told us how difficult a JOB this
would be. And you know as well as I do
that this really is a JOB. One that probably
none of us signed up for.<\/p>\n
Now, again, don’t send me hate mail,
because I’m not saying that you have to
do this and resent it as a job because
you don’t want to do it or don’t love your
loved one or anything. <\/p>\n
I know you love your loved one and do it
and don’t get paid or anything and would
do it even if you never made a red cent.
But that’s not what I’m saying here!
Please hear me out before you make
a judgment call.<\/p>\n
In my courses\/systems, I talk about being a
good supporter, and I do talk about it as if
it were a job, one you have to train for:<\/p>\n
SUPPORTING AN ADULT WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER? SUPPORTING A CHILD\/TEEN WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER? HAVE BIPOLAR DISORDER? Because when you really look at it, it And you may not have anyone to talk Maybe your loved one wasn’t always like But now you are facing a future with You may have had hopes and dreams that So\u2026now you have unfulfilled frustrations.<\/p>\n What do you do about it?<\/p>\n You have to ACCEPT IT.<\/p>\n I know that sounds simple. It IS simple.<\/p>\n But it is NOT easy! <\/p>\n No, it isn’t easy, but its something you have You have to put away your unfulfilled I know this may sound negative, and I don’t But what it is is REALISTIC! You must be So this is NOT negative! Your loved one can And you can have NEW expectations!<\/p>\n They just have to be REALISTIC expectations.<\/p>\n Your Friend,<\/p>\n Dave<\/p>\n ===>> Great Resources For You <===\n\nGet Your Own Subscription To This Newsletter Get More Help On Bipolar Disorder View Past Daily Bipolar Emails For F.REE Get Audio Information On Bipolar Disorder For F.REE =PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES Great Resources For You <\/p>\n
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really is. And you may be your loved
one’s only supporter, and that puts a
lot of pressure on you.<\/p>\n
about this to. So you may be holding a lot
of feelings inside you. And part of this may
be what I’m calling frustrated expectations.<\/p>\n
this. Maybe they have only recently been
diagnosed with bipolar disorder (which
explains why they have been behaving
the way they have been). <\/p>\n
bipolar disorder in it. You are looking at
a loved one who is going to always have
this disorder, and you are going to have to
live with it. <\/p>\n
you will now never be able to have fulfilled.
Your whole life may have changed now.<\/p>\n
to do if you’re going to continue being your
loved one’s supporter. You cannot let this
build up and stay inside you, hoping that
someday things will be different, because
that is NOT a realistic expectation.<\/p>\n
frustrations forever, and deal with the
new reality you are facing now.<\/p>\n
mean for it too, really I don’t. You know how
much of a positive person I am, and how I
always try to encourage you to be too.<\/p>\n
realistic. Face your future together with your
loved one in a realistic way.<\/p>\n
still become a healthy, happy, successful
person with bipolar disorder, with your
love and support.<\/p>\n
Want your own copy of these daily bipolar
emails sent to you for F.ree? If so, visit:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/register3<\/a><\/p>\n
Don’t forget to take a look through the
different programs I’ve put together… each
one is designed to help you with a different
area of bipolar disorder whether you have it or
you are supporting someone with it.
You can see them all and get the details by visiting:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/catalog.asp<\/a><\/p>\n
Check out my F.ree blog with copies of emails
that I have sent in the past and lots of great
information for you:
http:\/\/www.bipolarcentral.com\/supporterblog\/<\/a><\/p>\n
Check out my F.ree podcast. Hear me give
mini seminars designed to teach you information
you can’t learn anywhere else.
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