Hi,<\/p>\n
Have you ever known a real complainer? The type of person who has nothing good to say about anyone or anything? Who couldn’t get along with anyone? (or at least not for very long, before they became critical of them). Who would say things like, “Life isn’t fair.” Or that someone else wasn’t fair to them, or they were in an unfair situation. Someone who always blamed everyone else or everything else for what was going on with them. Who had a lot of unsolved problems?<\/p>\n
Did it seem to you that they might be their own biggest problem?<\/p>\n
I know of someone like that. Someone told me about this girl. Now, I’m not a doctor, and I can’t diagnose anyone, but in my opinion, this girl showed every sign of having bipolar disorder. She had terrible mood swings, for one thing, and that was obvious, even to someone who didn’t know anything about bipolar disorder. She called her sister once to complain about her boyfriend. At first she talked like she really loved him, but the next minute she was blaming him for all her problems. Not just that, but she keeps getting into trouble in all aspects of her life \u2013<\/p>\n
Her family, friends, co-workers, etc. \u2013 she has conflicts with them all. They think there is something wrong with her, but she denies it, blaming everything on them.<\/p>\n
But think about it. Do you think everyone else is wrong and that she is the only one who is right?<\/p>\n
It usually doesn’t work like that. If that’s the case, if everyone else is saying the same thing, she should stop and listen to them. They can’t all be wrong. Maybe they don’t know if she has bipolar disorder or not, but they do know that something is wrong with her. Otherwise she wouldn’t have all the problems that she has. But she is in denial, for sure, and playing the Blame Game.<\/p>\n
You may have faced this with your loved one, at least in the beginning. Many people with bipolar disorder will be in denial when they’re first diagnosed. They would rather blame someone or something else instead of accepting their diagnosis. Like they would say it’s just stress from work that’s making them act this way. Or, if it weren’t for [whoever], I wouldn’t act this way. That’s blaming, and it NEVER helps someone with bipolar disorder to get better. In order to get better, you have to stop blaming other people and other things for your own problems.<\/p>\n
If you are having conflicts with most of the other people in your life, you have to consider that the problem is YOU, and not them. You can’t change anyone else, but you can change yourself.<\/p>\n
If you or your loved one are already on medication, but you’re still having too many problems, you may need a medication adjustment. If you suspect this is the case, then you need to contact<\/p>\n
your or your loved one\u2019s doctor. You may not have even been noticing these things about yourself, but other people have been pointing them out to you. If so, you probably need help, because they can’t all be wrong and you be right. Just something to consider.<\/p>\n
Well, I have to go!<\/p>\n
Your Friend,<\/p>\n
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Dave<\/p>\n
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Hi,<\/p>\n
Have you ever known a real complainer? The type of person who has nothing good to say about anyone or anything? Who couldn’t get along with anyone? (or at least not for very long, before they became critical of them). Who would say things like, “Life isn’t fair.” Or that someone else wasn’t fair to them, or they were in an unfair situation. Someone who always blamed everyone else or everything else for what was going on with them.<\/p>\n