Hi,<\/p>\n
Have you ever known a real controlling person? Someone who had to be in control of everything<\/p>\n
(and everyone) around them? This type of person can be very annoying. They can go from, say, if it\u2019s someone you\u2019re dating and they order your dinner for you\u2026 Or someone you\u2019re married to and they pick out your outfit for you\u2026 To your boss who tells you what to do\u2026 And exactly how to do it! Controlling people absolutely have to have control. If they ever feel that something is not in their control, they feel very insecure. And they do everything they can to bring everything back into their control.<\/p>\n
Well\u2026I\u2019m not saying you\u2019re like that or anything\u2026Please, please don\u2019t be offended or think that I\u2019m saying that, because I\u2019m not saying that at all. But what I am saying is that each of us likes to think that we are at least in control of our own little world around us. We know we can\u2019t exactly predict every little thing\u2026But we do like to know that some things are at least predictable. But people can frustrate us. Because people aren\u2019t predictable. And people can\u2019t be controlled. They will do what they want to do anyway.<\/p>\n
So in life\u2026There are some things that are under your control\u2026And some things that aren\u2019t.<\/p>\n
That\u2019s just the way it is. So when you\u2019re dealing with a loved one who has bipolar disorder\u2026<\/p>\n
You have to accept that they fall under the category of not being able to control them. No matter how much you might want to. And that can be very, very frustrating. Especially when you see them doing things that are destructive and self-destructive.<\/p>\n
So what can you do? You have to practice the concept of: LETTING GO. You can only do so much. In other words\u2026There is only so much that is under your control. The rest is out of your control. So the rest you have to learn to let go of. You have to trust that things will work out the<\/p>\n
way they should. And that is the hard part. Trust. Because by this point, your loved one has probably blown your trust in them by the things they\u2019ve done in their bipolar episodes. So it could be very difficult for you to trust them at all. Ok, so maybe we have to leave the trust issue alone for a little while. Maybe we\u2019ll have to build up to trust. And that will come with time.<\/p>\n
But you can let go of those things you can\u2019t control. You can at least do that.<\/p>\n
Well, I have to go!<\/p>\n
Your Friend,<\/p>\n
Dave<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Hi,<\/p>\n
Have you ever known a real controlling person? Someone who had to be in control of everything<\/p>\n
(and everyone) around them? This type of person can be very annoying. They can go from, say, if it\u2019s someone you\u2019re dating and they order your dinner for you\u2026 Or someone you\u2019re married to and they pick out your outfit for you\u2026 To your boss who tells you what to do\u2026 And exactly how to do it!<\/p>\n