Hi,<\/p>\n
One of the first things parents teach their children is to get along. Unfortunately, that isn\u2019t always such an easy thing to do. A mother might be tending to something in the kitchen, only to hear a scream of \u201cMine, mine, mine!\u201d piercing through the air. Then she has to go into the other room and become a referee to her two children involved in an argument over a toy. Even as they become older, arguments seem to become an inevitable part of life. Magazines are constantly writing articles on relationships and how to communicate more effectively. But they don\u2019t seem to give advice on how to argue more effectively, do they? Well\u2026If arguing is inevitable, then I ask you, why not give advice on how to argue more effectively? That\u2019s what I want to talk about today.<\/p>\n
Because anger and rage are very common problems when you\u2019re dealing with a loved one with bipolar disorder. And because of this, it\u2019s only reasonable to conclude that arguments are going to crop up because of that. And you can probably attest to that, right? Some of your arguments have probably been pretty bad, too, haven\u2019t they? The problem is that sometimes they seem to pop up out of nowhere. And sometimes you can\u2019t even seem to figure out what started them! That makes it hard to figure out how to stop them, either. So the best thing you can do is try to figure out how to handle these arguments when they do occur.<\/p>\n
I want to tell you about a surprising way to argue with your loved one. Tell them that they\u2019re right. That\u2019s right \u2013 Simply say, \u201cYou\u2019re right.\u201d That\u2019s one of the quickest ways to end an argument with your loved one. I\u2019ll tell you why: Because sometimes\u2026A person with bipolar disorder in a manic episode will get an idea into their head, wrong or right\u2026But they will believe that they are right. And they will keep going with this idea no matter what it takes until you admit that they\u2019re right. So the sooner you do it (even if they\u2019re not right)\u2026The sooner the argument will be over with. But here\u2019s the thing: Sometimes it could even be about the most trivial thing! But still they have to be right! It\u2019s a pride thing. So, in this case, you have to swallow yours\u2026And let them be right. Yes, even if they\u2019re not. You have to be the better man.<\/p>\n
Notice I said \u201clet them be right.\u201d Chances are that they\u2019re not going to be right. Chances are that you are actually the one who is going to be right in this case. But that\u2019s going to have to be enough for you. Just to know that you are actually right, I mean. And somehow you\u2019re going to have to be able to say, \u201cYou\u2019re right\u201d to your loved one and seem like you mean it anyway. That\u2019s if you want to stop the argument.<\/p>\n
It may seem like a hard thing to do\u2026Especially if you know that you are really right. And you may not want to do it. You may even resent having to do it. But ask yourself: Would you rather do this\u2026Or keep arguing? Because your loved one will just keep on arguing for as long as it takes until you do say it. Remember\u2026They are not thinking rationally. But you are. You must do it, for the sake of peace.<\/p>\n
Well, I have to go!<\/p>\n
Your Friend,<\/p>\n
Dave<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Hi,<\/p>\n
One of the first things parents teach their children is to get along. Unfortunately, that isn\u2019t always such an easy thing to do. A mother might be tending to something in the kitchen, only to hear a scream of \u201cMine, mine, mine!\u201d piercing through the air. Then she has to go into the other room and become a referee to her two children involved in an argument over a toy. Even as they become older,<\/p>\n