Hi,<\/p>\n
Did you know that in the state of Florida, it is perfectly legal NOT to wear a helmet if you ride a motorcycle? Now, I personally have a problem with that. Because I think that\u2019s really dangerous. Just because the law says it\u2019s legal doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s necessarily what I call best practices. Best practices is what you do to get the best result\u2026Or things you do to be the most effective in given situations.<\/p>\n
So, say, what would NOT be best practices would be fighting with your loved one to get your point across. Do you agree? So what might be a better way? Best practices would be communicating your wants and needs in a way your loved one can understand.<\/p>\n
For example\u2026 You might try getting them to see your point of view by relating it to theirs. If they have been laying around depressed and not being productive, you could say something like\u2026 \u201cYou know I try to do things around here to show you that you are valuable, and I would appreciate it if you did the same thing.\u201d<\/p>\n
If this general approach doesn\u2019t work, you might have to give some specific examples to back up<\/p>\n
your statement to get them to understand your point. But the main point here is that best practices are to talk things out instead of fighting about them.<\/p>\n
Another best practice is to try not to stress your loved one out, as that can lead to a bipolar episode\u2026And you don\u2019t want that. So you want to keep things as stress free as<\/p>\n
possible.<\/p>\n
As I was saying\u2026One way of doing that is just not to fight with them. Another way is to keep the home environment as stress free as you can make it. That would mean limiting those bugging phone calls to not when they are trying to relax, for instance\u2026 Or at least intercepting them. You could tell the person that your loved one is busy and will call them back later, for example. Then give your loved one a chance to relax\u2026Maybe even eat dinner first\u2026Before they have to deal with the person\u2019s phone call.<\/p>\n
And it\u2019s definitely good if you intercept those annoying phone solicitor\u2019s calls! Same thing about answering the door. You know\u2026Those people who come to the door to solicit.<\/p>\n
Try to keep them from bugging your loved one.<\/p>\n
Also\u2026If the TV bugs your loved one, try to keep on some relaxing music or just the silence.<\/p>\n
Or let them watch what they want to watch on TV for awhile (if it will avoid a fight)\u2026A couple I know solved this problem by simply putting a TV in the other room for the other person to watch what they wanted. Now they both get to watch what they want when they disagree on what to watch\u2026And there are no more fights! Of course, you don\u2019t want to do this too often\u2026<\/p>\n
As you still want to spend some time together. But you want that time to be quality time. So making that time stress free is certainly best practices.<\/p>\n
It is also best practices not to let your loved one get away with unacceptable behavior. That\u2019s where best practices would be setting limits as to what you will tolerate. You can just say to them something like: \u201cI love you, but when you act like this, I will not tolerate it, and I will ignore you until you stop.\u201d Then\u2026 ignore them. Eventually, they will stop.<\/p>\n
Well, I have to go!<\/p>\n
Your Friend,<\/p>\n
Dave<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Hi,<\/p>\n
Did you know that in the state of Florida, it is perfectly legal NOT to wear a helmet if you ride a motorcycle? Now, I personally have a problem with that. Because I think that\u2019s really dangerous. Just because the law says it\u2019s legal doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s necessarily what I call best practices. Best practices is what you do to get the best result\u2026Or things you do to be the most effective in given situations.<\/p>\n