=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <=<\/p>\n
Hi, how is your day going? I hope it’s a great one.<\/p>\n
I was looking over past emails and responses to them, and figured out that the most common one was about being high-functioning \u2013 That the survivor wants to be high-functioning, and that their supporter wants them to be high- functioning, too.<\/p>\n
So today I want to talk about one area associated with that, since it\u2019s such a hot topic.<\/p>\n
I want to talk to you about one way you can help your loved one to be high-functioning, but also how you can become high-functioning as well.<\/p>\n
Here it is: You both need to focus on what you want, and NOT on what you DON\u2019T<\/p>\n
want.<\/p>\n
Too many people focus on what they DON\u2019T want and never focus on what they DO want, and this is a HUGE mistake. It has to do with your attitude, for sure, but it also has to do with your FOCUS. Your attitude and your FOCUS.<\/p>\n
If you focus on what you DON\u2019T want, you will be \u201cspinning your wheels.\u201d You will get nowhere. It may even make you fight with each other. You will certainly be focusing on the most negative aspects of the disorder.<\/p>\n
But you can CHOOSE to focus yourselves on the positive side of the disorder. Here\u2019s one way: You can make yourselves a list. On one side, put all the things you don\u2019t want.<\/p>\n
For instance, you don\u2019t want to fight. Or you don\u2019t want to go into an episode.<\/p>\n
Then on the other side, put all the things you DO want. For example, you DO want stability, and you DO want less episodes, and you DO want to be high-functioning. So all these things would be on that side of the paper.<\/p>\n
Well, part of being high-functioning is to be focused. You need to pick a goal, and work toward that goal. For instance, if your goal is to have less episodes, you have to de-stress your life. So you make a list of ways you can de-stress your life, and you set forth to do exactly that, checking off things as you go.<\/p>\n
It may mean getting rid of that high car payment and just buying a used (but in good shape) car. It may mean switching jobs. It may mean working from home. It may even mean starting a home business. Whatever it takes to de-stress your life.<\/p>\n
The main thing is that you have the POWER to change your life.<\/p>\n
You have the ability, especially if you both work together toward a common goal, to be stable, to have less episodes, and to be high-functioning. As long as you stay focused on the goal. As long as you work together. And as long as you work toward what you want, and not what you don\u2019t want.<\/p>\n
In today’s economy, many people are facing financial pressure. So you can also use this method on your finances. You would make your goal list to be “lower finances.” Then you would list the things that you can do to help your finances.<\/p>\n
For example, keep the heat down. That will save you money on your power bill. Don’t eat out as much \u2013 that will help you save money as well.<\/p>\n
The key to being high functioning is being focused, and one of the ways to become high functioning is to set goals and achieve them.<\/p>\n
Well, I have to go!<\/p>\n
Your Friend,<\/p>\n
Dave<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
=>PLEASE FORWARD TO FRIENDS, FAMILY AND LOVED ONES <=<\/p>\n
Hi, how is your day going? I hope it’s a great one.<\/p>\n
I was looking over past emails and responses to them, and figured out that the most common one was about being high-functioning \u2013 That the survivor wants to be high-functioning, and that their supporter wants them to be high- functioning, too.<\/p>\n
So today I want to talk about one area associated with that,<\/p>\n