Hi, how are you? I hope you’re fine.<\/p>\n
I have a funny true story to tell you:<\/p>\n
A friend of mine was in a fender bender (small accident). This other man hit her car on a back road because he came around the corner too fast and she was just turning onto the street, so he tried to pass her, and ended up hitting her front end.<\/p>\n
Right away he got out of his car complaining about his back, and blaming the accident on my friend. He was so vocal about his “hurt back,” that he even told the witnesses and the police about it.<\/p>\n
But here’s where he made his mistake and what makes this story so funny: My friend told him she thought her car was leaking transmission fluid.<\/p>\n
So he said, “Hang on, let me take a look.” And he easily bent under her car to see if there was damage.<\/p>\n
Can you imagine how embarrassed he was when he straightened up and saw that everyone was staring at him with a “Sure, you’ve got a bad back” look?<\/p>\n
He did try to sue my friend for his back anyway, but she came to find out that he was suing someone else for the same thing at the same time!<\/p>\n
See, our society has gotten lazy. Many people just go straight to a lawsuit against someone (or some company) instead of taking some responsibility themselves.<\/p>\n
Blaming thinking is what has gotten our society to the place where attorneys who specialize<\/p>\n
in personal injury lawsuits make quite a lot of money, with no lack of clients. Yes, being responsible is harder than being lazy, but you still need to do it.<\/p>\n
Blaming thinking is like these types of thoughts:<\/p>\n
Something is missing, so someone else must have moved it (instead of taking responsibility that you may just have misplaced it).<\/p>\n
The car isn’t working right, so the mechanic must not have fixed it properly (instead of thinking that maybe something else is broken and needs to be fixed).<\/p>\n
Your expenses are more than your income, so your loved one must be spending too much money (instead of taking responsibility for your part in the excessive spending).<\/p>\n
The house is a mess, so your loved one is not doing their part (instead of accepting just as much responsibility as them for keeping the house clean).<\/p>\n
A project at work is late, so your co-workers must not have done their part (instead of accepting responsibility for your part of the project).<\/p>\n
It’s easier to blame someone else than it is to accept your own responsibility. That’s why we have a society full of blamers. Blaming thinking can be very hard on you if you’re trying to deal with bipolar disorder.<\/p>\n
Especially because it’s very easy to fall into the habit of blaming every problem on the bipolar disorder itself. If your loved one is doing this, it can prolong their recovery. They must take responsibility for their bipolar behavior and its consequences if they’re going to get better.<\/p>\n
I’m not saying that everyone is this way, but I think many of us, if the truth be told, do it at some<\/p>\n
point.<\/p>\n
Well, I have to go!<\/p>\n
Your Friend,<\/p>\n
Dave<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Hi, how are you? I hope you’re fine.<\/p>\n
I have a funny true story to tell you:<\/p>\n
A friend of mine was in a fender bender (small accident). This other man hit her car on a back road because he came around the corner too fast and she was just turning onto the street, so he tried to pass her, and ended up hitting her front end.<\/p>\n
Right away he got out of his car complaining about his back,<\/p>\n