Hi, how are you today? I hope you’re having a good day.<\/p>\n
There are two types of people:<\/p>\n
1.\tPeople who complain about their problems but do nothing to resolve them.<\/p>\n
2.\tPeople who rise above their problems and become successful.<\/p>\n
Which type are you?<\/p>\n
Nobody likes to hear other people complain. At best, it makes you feel sorry for the person, but you still can’t help them. At worst, they can bring you down with their complaints. And you might resent them, because you have problems of your own!<\/p>\n
I hope you’re the second type of person.<\/p>\n
I know you’re dealing with bipolar disorder, and that’s a big problem. But is just sitting around complaining about it going to do anything to change your situation? No.<\/p>\n
Just remember, you are NOT your disorder. Supporters, your loved one is NOT their disorder.<\/p>\n
Bipolar disorder can make you do some things sometimes that may become problems because of the consequences, but you need to separate yourself from the disorder (identity-wise) and still take responsibility for consequences of episodes.<\/p>\n
Still, you have a choice as to which type of person you want to be. Some people say they can’t help themselves, but I disagree. I think you can take control of your problems. I think you can take control of your bipolar disorder and the problems that it brings.<\/p>\n
Like I was just saying about taking responsibility for the consequences of things that you do during an episode. If there’s something you CAN do, I think you should do it.<\/p>\n
Too many people with the disorder depend too much on their supporters.<\/p>\n
As a supporter, you should have boundaries (limits) in place, and be sticking to them, so that you don’t enable your loved one. Enabling is doing things for them that they can do for themselves.<\/p>\n
You also don’t want them to be too dependent on you. That’s not healthy for either one of you.<\/p>\n
It can even lead to codependency, which is a whole other problem in itself.<\/p>\n
You want to be partners. Co-workers in the fight against bipolar disorder. You have a great deal to do with your loved one’s stability. You are an invaluable help and source of support for them.<\/p>\n
But if you just sit around and complain that your loved one has bipolar disorder, you will not be helping them (or yourself) at all.<\/p>\n
If you both work together to deal with your loved one’s disorder, you can be successful in your efforts. Stability is the ultimate success, and stability is possible if you just don’t give up.<\/p>\n
Well, I have to go!<\/p>\n
Your Friend,<\/p>\n
Dave<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Hi, how are you today? I hope you’re having a good day.<\/p>\n
There are two types of people:<\/p>\n
1.\tPeople who complain about their problems but do nothing to resolve them.<\/p>\n
2.\tPeople who rise above their problems and become successful.<\/p>\n
Which type are you?<\/p>\n
Nobody likes to hear other people complain. At best, it makes you feel sorry for the person, but you still can’t help them.<\/p>\n